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KIDS THESE DAYS: WHAT AMERICANS REALLY THINK ABOUT THE NEXT GENERATION Ad A Report from Public Agenda buncil Funding for this project was provided by Ronald McDonald House Charities. © 1997 Public Agenda Unauthorized duplication of this report is a violation of copyright. Design and layout: Mary Armour ISBN: 1-889483-46-X KIDS THESE DAYS: WHAT AMERICANS REALLY THINK ABOUT THE NEXT GENERATION A Report from Public Agenda By Steve Farkas and Jean Johnson With Ann Duffett and Ali Bers Consulting Editor: Chris Perry ABOUT PUBLIC AGENDA Founded in 1975 by social scientist and author Daniel Yankelovich and former Secretary of State Cyrus Vance. Public Agenda works to help average citizens better understand critical policy issues and to help the nation's leaders better understand the public's point of view. Public Agenda's in-depth research on how citizens think about policy forms the basis for extensive citizen education work. Its citizen education materials. used by the National Issues Forums and media outlets across the country. have won praise for their credibility and fairness from elected officials from both political parties and from experts and decision-makers across the political spectrum ABOUT COMMITMENT 2000 The Advertising Council. the largest source of public service advertising in the nation. has made a 10-year commitment to focus the majority of its resources on developing campaigns which improve the circumstances of children in this country As part of Commitment 2000: Raising a Better Tomorrow. the Council will develop hundreds of ads on a variety of different topics which will benefit children. ABOUT RONALD McDONALD HOUSE CHARITIES RMHC has made a $100 million commitment over the next five years to fund programs that provide comfort and care to children and families. RMHC will use this important research to help guide its giving. and It will be shared with people and organizations on the frontlines advocating for at-risk children. including national and grassroots philanthropic organizations. as well as community and church leaders. ACKNOWLEDGMENTS The authors of Kids Tin Days would like to thank the following people for their support and assistance during the preparation of this report: t.. Know and lames Orites. Chair and Vice Chair of The Advertising Council's Board of Directors. and Ruth However: of the AJ Council. who are leading the way to address the issue of how our nation cares for its young people Annu Varia Cagitari. F... Kasten. and Susan Rover. also of the Ad Council. who have made this project a reality with their clear vision and dedication. Ronald 1/. Donald House Charities for their willingness to support this research and their belief in our work. Joan Imme main Senior Research Fellow at Public Agenda and Professor of Philosophy at Villanova University. whose initial work continually informed the research: Robert Y. Shapiro. Professor of Political Science at Columbia University. who always seems to be there with guidance - both practical and intellectual: and David Park also of Columbia University. who provided timely and invaluable assistance. Public Agenda's Communications Director-Margaret Dunning. who along with Vinny Calabrese. skillfully brings our work to the attention of a broad audience. Our Public Agenda colleagues-Nancy Beiles. Michael Buryk. Caroline Corbin. Will Friedman. Michael deCourcy Hinds. Kathie Johnson. Zarela Maldonado, Keith Melville. Janet Polokoff. Alex Trilling. and David White-who are always willing to lend their good humor. support. knowledge. and creativity. Deborah Wadsworth. Public Agenda's Executive Director. who continues to guide all of this organization's work with her keen insight. judgment. and enthusiasm. Daniel Yankelovich. whose thinking on public opinion provides the intellectual backbone of Public Agenda's work. 4 © 1997 Public Agenda Table of Contents Introduction 7 Finding One: The Moral Meltdown 8 Finding Two: It's Not Just Teens 11 Finding Three: Careless Parents 13 Finding Four: Mitigating Circumstances 16 Finding Five: Never Give Up 19 Finding Six: Solutions That Miss The Mark 21 Finding Seven: Solutions That Show Promise 23 Finding Eight: Will Individual Americans Help? 25 Special Focus: African American. Hispanic. And White Parents 29 Special Focus: What Kids Have To Say 32 Afterword by Deborah Wadsworth 36 Supporting Tables 37 Endnotes 48 Methodology 49 Related Public Agenda Publications 50 KIDS THESE DAYS. What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 5 INTRODUCTION A recent survey by Princeton Survey Research To our knowledge. Public Agenda's research is the Associates showed that almost three-quarters of the most wide-ranging and in-depth examination of American people think that young people with a poor Americans' views on this issue conducted in recent education. poor job prospects. and problematic values years. It was underwritten by Ronald McDonald now pose a greater danger to the United States than House Charities and conducted on behalf of The any threat from abroad. Thankfully. the end of the Advertising Council. both organizations having com- Cold War has far reduced public fears of foreign ene- mitted themselves to ambi- mies. so it is hardly surprising to find people focused tious and sustained efforts to so definitively on a domestic concern. But the image improve the lives of children. Americans from around evoked by this finding is somehow disturbing. Are Ronald McDonald House the country, from different Americans really afraid of the next generation? Do Charities will use findings walks of life, from differ- they really see the country's young people - or some from the Public Agenda study ent racial and ethnic group of them at least - as "the enemy within?" to guide its $100 million com- groups, with children and mitment in giving to chil- without them, are in Plenty Of Symptoms dren's programs. The ample agreement on what Advertising Council will do could be done. Grousing about the next generation. of course. is a likewise as it launches a time-honored activity among older citizens. and sur- decade-long effort to mobilize veys have captured public concern about teenagers in citizens to volunteer in their own communities in particular for decades.- However. the complaints of efforts on behalf of children and teens. adults are not the only sign that all is not well among the nation's young. Drug use is on the rise among A Specific And Clear Message adolescents. Teen suicide has increased. One in five of the nation's children live in poverty. About 1 in 3 But the implications of this research are far broader. American children do not live in an intact two-parent As we describe in detail in the following pages. the household. Half the country's public high school stu- public has a quite specific analysis of what troubles dents say drugs and violence are serious problems the nation's youth and a surprisingly clear set of rec- where they go to school. Seven in ten say cheating on ommendations. The findings show a public that is tests and assignments IS commonplace.3 anguished about our young people but not bereft of ideas about how to help them. Americans see the There are many indicators that something is wrong. potential for solutions in the public schools. law Political leaders. along with liberal and conservative enforcement. community groups. religious bodies. advocates. have offered competing diagnoses and charitable activities. and - albeit much less hopefully solutions. But how do typical Americans think about - government and the media. What's more. there is a and define the problems facing the country's children widely-shared - and strongly-felt - definition of the and teens? What. if anything. do most Americans problem. Americans from around the country. from think can be done to improve the condition and different walks of life, from different racial and ethnic prospects for the nation's youth? groups. with children and without them. are in ample agreement on what could and should be done. The Public Agenda Study As an opinion research organization. Public Agenda is To find out. Public Agenda, a nonprofit research and continually interested, even fascinated. by Americans education group based in New York. conducted an in- views on the challenges facing today's world, What depth study of the views of the general public. along Americans have to say about the nation's children and with those of African American. Hispanic, and white youth. we are con inced, is more than merely interest- parents. The study also included focus groups in New ing. Kids These Duys charts a course for designing Jersey. Colorado. and California and a shorter survey public and private policies and programs for children of youngsters themselves - those between the ages that can win broad public support. More important. of 12 and 17. (For more details on how the research this study - if opinion leaders will listen carefully - was conducted. see the Methodology section.) Kids offers the key to rebuilding Americans' confidence in These Davs is our report on the major findings from the future. this research. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 7 FINDING ONE: The Moral Meltdown Americans are convinced that today's adolescents face a crisis - not in their economic or physical well-being but in their values and morals. Most Americans look at today's teenagers with misgiving and trepidation. viewing them as undisciplined. disrespectful. and unfriendly. Ask Americans to pick one overriding national con- Rude, Irresponsible, And Wild cern. and the chances are good they will pick kids. More than half of Americans surveyed by Public When asked what first comes to their minds when Agenda (52%) think that helping youngsters get a they think about today's teenagers. two-thirds of good start in life ought to be society's most important Americans (67%) immediately reach for negative goal. even considering such competing priorities as adjectives such as "rude." "irresponsible." and "wild." protecting citizens from crime (18%) and creating Another 16% point to social problems teens face. more jobs (16%). such as lack of guidance. Only a handful (12%) describe teens positively. using terms such as "smart" The concern is not youngsters' health problems. safe- or "helpful." These descriptions point to the automat- IV. or poverty rates. Rather. Americans are deeply ic, almost invisible evaluations people commonly troubled by the character and values exhibited by make about teenagers. Are they polite or rude? young people today More than 6 in 10 adults (61%) Conscientious or irresponsible? Are they behaving think that youngsters failure to learn such values as themselves or are they acting out? Are they neat or honesty. respect. and responsibility is a very serious sloppy? Most people seem to have made up their problem. And almost half (49%) believe the same minds. and the answers are not good. about fewer families teaching their youngsters reli- gious faith and values. A "By the time they are in high school. most of them are Denver man summed up the in trouble. They might not be in criminal trouble. but 1 as advocates worry concern this way: "It all just it children and teens they are out aggravating the neighbors and raising stems from respect. When I hell in the streets." - New Jersey man ving up with physical grew up. you respected adults. material deficits, no matter who they were "It seems like kids are more destructive non ricans worry about whether they were your moth- There is anger inside of them." - Denver man cits in character er. your neighbor. the person values. down the block. If there was Idle Hands in adult. you respected them." These initial impressions are far more than thought- Many children's advocates fear that an aging society. less. top-of-the-head reactions. In question after ques- 1 society that prizes independence and self-sufficien- tion. Americans express dissatistaction with the cy. has begun to care less about its young people. demeanor and behavior of teenagers. Half say it's They point to high rates of youth poverty and other very common for teens to get into trouble because indicators of deprivation and call on Americans to they have too much free time. "Teenagers used to back measures to improve youngsters' material well- have chores to do. and they learned how to work." being. This study shows - in finding after finding said an Illinois man. "Teens today aren't being taught across all demographic groups - that Americans are how to work." Four in ten Americans (41%) say it's intensely concerned about young people. but their very common to find teenagers who have poor work concerns center directly on youngsters' moral well- habits and lack self-discipline. being. Thus. even as advocates worry about children and teens growing up with physical and material For many adults. teen behavior is more than disap- deficits. Americans worry about deficits in character pointing: it can be intimidating. Three in ten say teens and values. who are "wild and disorderly in public" are very com- mon. "I know older adults who are afraid when a teenager walks past them." said a woman from Washington state. B © 1997 Public Agenda In focus groups for the study. there were rare compli- ple with respect. Parents probably - hopefully - mentary comments. I find most of the children in my have more sympathetic and complimentary views of area - teenagers. youngsters - to be terrific." recalled their own teenagers. but they have little praise for the one New Jersey man. "You open the door and the kids other teens they come across. are out there I never have any problem. They are very respectful." But very few Americans hold such The Root-Cause: A Lack Of Values favorable impressions: only about I in 8 12%) think it IS very common for teens to treat people with respect The public's widespread dis- and be friendly or helpful toward their neighbors. appointment with the charac- The public believes values ter of today's teens (including are a vaccine: if you To Know Them Is To Love Them! their work ethic. behavior. and inoculate teens with them, sense of responsibility) has they will be able to resist These are harsh and sobering judgments. But are they resulted in an intense focus the world's many troubles really judgments. or just vague impressions casually - a virtual preoccupation - and traps. gathered from watching television or walking past the on morals and values. local school? Do people who regularly deal with teenagers on a day-to-day basis have a different - Why is the public so preoccupied with the character perhaps more reliable - sense of how good or bad and values of America's teen-agers? First and fore- they are? To find out. respondents were asked if they most. this focus reflects an over-arching public con- personally had a lot of contact with teenagers (35%). cern that extends to society as a whole. Asked to some contact (27%). a little contact (30%). or no con- choose between two causes for the problems facing tact at all 18% society today. 51% say they mainly stem from a decline in moral values: only 37% attribute them to A closer look at the survey results shows that people economic and financial pressures on the family.4 who have regular contact with teens are as critical of them as everyone else. if not more so. Two-thirds Values and character are. for most people. the root- (65%) of those with a lot of contact describe cause explanation for why things go wrong or right teenagers disapprov ingly. More than half (54%) believe teens get into trouble because they have too much time on their hands - versus 49% among those CONTACT WITH TEENS with little or no teen contact. And those who have a lot of contact with teens are slightly more likely than others to think they have poor work habits (45% ver- How much contact would you say you have with sus 38% teenagers - a lot. some. only a little. or none at all? Nor are people who have a lot of contact with teens Not at all more likely to think they treat others with respect - 14% say so. versus 11% among those with little or no teen contact. Similarly. they're not more likely to 8" view teens as friendly and helpful (14% versus 11%). Thus. even those who have extensive experience with teenagers are reluctant to sing their praises. 35% A little A lot Even Parents Agree One would expect the parents of teenagers to be most likely to view teens in a positive light. but their judg- ment is identical to that of everyone else. Forty-five percent of parents who have teens at home say teens get into trouble because they have too much time on their hands; 43% say teens have poor work habits; 3 Some in 10 say teens are wild and disorderly. Ask parents about positive traits and again their responses echo those of the general public. Only 12% say teens are friendly and helpful. and only 9% say teens treat peo- KIDS THESE DAYS. What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 9 throughout society. For the public. values and charac- It 15 the abilin 111 do right If you have discipline ter explain why some people give in to drugs and oth- VOID can he polite. you can control your weight. you er resist. why some people get stuck in welfare and can learn. you can make it your jub to share and line others climb out. why some people commit crime and one another and not be selfish. We have forgotten the others lead productive lives. The public believes val- word when it comes to kids." - Illinois man ues are a vaccine: if you inoculate teens with them. they will be able to resist the world's many troubles Thus. there seems to be a wide breach between and traps. "You have got to instill values in them now teenagers and adults. with adults looking at teens - at home." said a New York mother. "So that when preferably. in their minds. from a safe distance - they go out in the street and somebody comes up to with anxiety and disappointment. not at all certain them and says. Hey. try some.' they say :No. I know that this generation bodes well for their communities what that does to you. or for the country. There is one word that keeps coming to my mind - discipline. For some people it is a harsh word. but I think " is one of the best words in the dictionary. It doesn' mean you have to hurt anybody. 10 © 1997 Public Agenda FINDING TWO: It's Not Just Teens Public dissatistaction and disapproval extend beyond the nation's teenagers. Even young children are viewed in a negative light. Many Americans think children are spoiled and out of control. not friendly. helpful. or engaging. And people apply these criticisms to children across a broad economic spectrum. to children from disadvantaged backgrounds as well as children from the middle and affluent classes. This study would hardly break new ground if all it spread. and often harsh. disapproval of children reported were adult concerns over teenage behav between 5 and 12 years old. For example. nearly half After all. complaints that young people are sullen. the public (48%) thinks It is very common for chil- adrift. hard to understand. and unaccountably attract- dren to be spoiled and not appreciate what they have. ed to ugly music and even-uglier styles of dress are hardly original with this generation. Does this bleak When Americans complain about spoiled kids. they view of America's youth simply reflect every genera- seem to have two thoughts in mind. One is the notion tion's "kids-these-days" complaint? that children have become mindlessly acquisitive. mini-consumers who demand - and get - electronic Seven Going On Twenty-One gadgets and designer clothes and sneakers. things they have come to expect as a matter of right. "With all the Public criticism is not limited to teenage behavior. technology. kids always want more." remarked a Americans have surprisingly harsh things to say even weary father in Denver "It's I want. I want. I want." about younger children. defined in this study as those Americans increasingly sus- older than 5 but not yet in their teens. When asked the pect that a consumer ethic first thing that comes to mind when describing Children have become among the middle class is dn- today's children. 53% offer negative descriptions. ving a never-ending chase of mindlessly acquisitive, with many people characterizing them as lacking dis- mini-consumers who "things" with the result that cipline and being rude or spoiled. Only 23% of the children are simply demand and get - respondents had positive things to say about children overindulged. electronic gadgets and - that they were curious or enthusiastic. for example. designer clothes and These top-of-mind negative responses are uncomfort- People also worry that when sneakers, things they have ably close to what people say about teens. "My so much is available to chil- come to expect as a mat- daughter is wild. She IS 7 going on 21." said a dren so easily. bad habits form ter of right. stressed Denver mother. and the wrong values are con- veyed. Three in ten Americans say children who are In this study. some survey questions explicitly distin- lazy and do not apply themselves are very common. A guished children from teens in the expectation that non-parent from New Jersey complained: "They have public perceptions of the two would differ. And no sense of values. I think that the more you give. the Americans do make some distinctions. For example. more they want." nearly two-thirds (64%) say they find it easy to com- municate with children. while only 43% say the same Getting No Respect about teens. Also. the majority describing children neg- atively IS smaller than the majority that is critical of Another major shortcoming adults see in today's chil- teens (53% versus 67%). Finally. people in the focus dren is how they behave in public and how they relate groups were less likely to express a fear of children. to adults. Only 12% find it very common for children to treat people with respect. while only 17% consider But that only amounts to saying that the good news is it usual for children to be friendly and helpful toward that the bad news could be worse. "Children are doing their neighbors. About 3 in 10 Americans (31%) say better than teens." said an Iowa woman. "because they it's very common for children to be out of control in don't have the wherewithal or the devices to be bad. public areas such as restaurants or the movies. One like adults or teens have. They don't have things like frequently-expressed theme - particularly from par- money. access. cars." ents in focus groups - was the need for adult author- ity. for setting limits and standards of behavior. "The Children Who Have Too Much problem today is that a lot of kids are not held accountable for what they do, and there are no conse- What is significant and perhaps surprising is that chil- quences." said a Denver mother. "If you don't have dren today do not inspire an instinctively positive any consequences for your behavior, then you don't feeling from adults. Instead. adults express wide- learn anything." KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 11 The stakes are high. many adults believe. because if Speaking From Experience such problems are left to tester they will only become more serious. "You have to train the younger kids As was the case with teenagers. these perceptions first." -aid a New Jersey man. "If you let them [get] hold even among adults who have a lot of contact out of control. as they get older. their problems get with children (47%). Half of the adults in this catego- bigger." There was also the sense in the focus groups ry say that spoiled children are very common. about that children are growing up faster and that the age of the same percentage as those who have little or no innocence IS shrinking. What's more. increased contact with children (48%). People who have a lot of sophistication is not often seen as a good thing. contact with children are slightly more likely to describe children as out of control (35% versus 28%). "Children years ago could be children up to 14 or 15. At the same time. they are also slightly more likely to But today the kids who are 10 years old know what describe children who are friendly and helpful to their the average teenager did years ago They grow neighbors as very common (20% versus 14%). up too tast. - New Jersey man Nor are the parents of children aged 5 to 12. who pre- Rich Kids, Poor Kids sumably have the most contact with kids this age. noticeably upbeat. In fact. they are as likely as the The public's preoccupation with youngsters learning general public to say that children this age are spoiled the wrong values is applied widely. and not at all tar- (44%), lazy (30%), or out of control (28%). And they geted at children from are not substantially more positive than the general Only 37% of Americans the "wrong side of the public about whether children treat people with believe that when tracks." Those who respect (14%) or are friendly and helpful (22%). today's children grow identified "kids failing up, they will make to learn such values as this country a honesty. respect. and And The World Will Be A Better better place. responsibility" as a Place? very or somewhat seri- ous problem were The public's judgments are not entirely negative. For asked whether this problem mostly affects youngsters example. about 3 in 10 Americans (32%) think that from lower-income families or is widespread. Nine in bright and eager-to-learn children are very common in 10 (91%) say the failure to learn values is widespread: our society. When Americans look at our nation's only 85 say it mostly affects youngsters from disad- children. however. they generally conclude that some- vantaged backgrounds. thing is wrong with the values they display and the standards of behavior they exhibit. Across history and across various cultures. people HOW TODAY'S KIDS WILL have often considered the next generation as the best AFFECT AMERICA hope for the future. But for Americans in the 1990s. this bedrock belief seems to have been shaken to the core. Doubts start with teenagers and carry over to When today's children grow up. do you think they're children: they apply to middle class kids as well as likely to make America a better place. a worse place. or the disadvantaged. It's no wonder that only 37% of will they probably make little difference? Americans believe that when today's children grow up. they will make this country a better place: while almost 6 in 10 (58%) believe children won't make a Both/ difference. or will make it even worse. The traditional Don't know ideal of children as a source of renewal and hope has. for the majority of the American public. been serious- in ly undermined. 37% Little 37% difference Better place Worse place 12 © 1997 Public Agenda FINDING THREE: Careless Parents Americans believe that parents are fundamentally responsible for the disappointing state of today's youth. People say parents fail to teach youngsters right from wrong and pass on the values children need to learn in order to become productive members of society. Too often. people say. today's parents have children before they re ready: give them presents instead of guidance and attention: and fail to provide necessary discipline. Even parents themselves from all income. ethnic. and racial backgrounds agree. From the public's perspective. it IS impossible to discuss Those who believe today's children and teens are children and teenagers without discussing their parents. spoiled and materialistic attribute these same faults to People believe youngsters primarily reflect what they their parents. Half of those surveyed find it very com- learn at home. Americans believe it is parents' job to mon for parents to equate buying things for children to make sure young people grow up with the right values. caring for them. "The fact is that children are learning ready to take their place in society. "Children need guid- values now - everyday." said an Ohio man with deri- ance and molding." said a New Jersey man. "and the sion. "They're being taught: Number one is me.' and only place they can get it is from their parents at home. 'Spend and buy things and accumulate things.' The fact That's where it all begins." that kids need to have $200 Nikes shouldn't surprise anyone." Virtually half the public (49%) believe it's very So Where Are The Parents! common for parents to spoil their kids. If children and teens fail to learn right from wrong. are Not My Child! spoiled. or misbehave - which the data clearly show IS what people believe - Americans look first to the par- The vision of almost willfully oblivious parents - ents. Many Americans think children and teens are trou- parents who refuse to believe their children might be at bled and out of control because too many parents fail to fault. much less reprimand them for doing wrong - do their job. People accept the notion advanced by John came up repeatedly in focus group discussions. "How Locke - that at birth humans are a blank slate who many times have you heard: develop attitudes and character through education and Not my son! Not my experience. Children are not born with a good or bad Only about 1 in 5 daughter!" a man in New mindset. people believe: they absorb it.5 Jersey noted in frustration. Americans (22%) say it's "The whole neighborhood very common to find par- Automatic ally. with an annoying young child. I look could witness an incident. ents who are good role models for their kids. right all the parents / don blame II on the kid. I but that parent is going to blame 11 on the parents who are sitting right there. say. Not my kid! It is allow me II 10 happen." - New Jersey man sick." A retired teacher remembered being shocked by "how many kids do drugs in high school and their par- Parents are not raising kids with the right work ethic. ents have no idea: they think their kids are model. per- Then are not taking the time to explain things to kids, to fect kids. It is almost like a lot of them lead two lives." show them. They do 100 many things for them instead of asking. demanding. or disciplining them to do it." It Takes A Village? - Illinois man Some social observers have suggested that Americans - Falling Down On The Job especially those without children -refuse to shoulder any responsibility for the next generation or show any Since the public believes parents are the key to how interest in children's development or families' problems. youngsters turn out. it is not surprising to find their com- But have Americans really turned their backs on parents. plaints about children and teens echoed in their com- saying in effect. "They your kids. you raise them?" plaints about parents. Only about I in 5 Americans (22%) say it's very common to find parents who are good role Ironically, many Americans believe parents themselves models for their kids. Half complain that parents fail to are the ones who reject any involvement from outside the provide discipline. More than half (55%) believe parents home. Focus group respondents repeatedly told modera- break up marriages too easily instead of trying to stay tors that parents don't appreciate suggestions about - together for the sake of their children. More than 6 in 10 let alone criticism of - their children. Sensing that par- (63% I say it's very common for parents to have children ents resent anything that might be interpreted as interfer- before they are ready to take responsibility for them. ence. people are wary of interfering in someone else's "Parents need to be mature themselves before they have business. "I wouldn't feel comfortable in going over to children." said an Iowa woman. someone and saying I didn't think they were doing KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 13 something correctly." said I woman in Washington They need love and affection. If the family unit state. 1 don't know if It would be something they doesn't show the potential to love. they will 20 for 11 would appreciate. More than + in 10 people surveved elsewhere even gangs - New Jersey man (439) think it's very common for parents to resent advice about their kids - even when that advice "When children are unsupervised. they look for other comes from people who mean well. "If you say some- people who care they look to each other for guid- thing to somebody else's kids nowaday you are ance. but [young people] do not have the sophistica- going to get into it with their parents. remarked a tion or knowledge to take care of themselves. and they California woman with a matter-of-fact tone. So peo- end up making unwise choices." ple walk away. shake their heads. mutter beneath their - Nebraska woman breath. and protest internally - but not publicly. where it could make some difference. And here again is an area where the public feels par- ents often fall short. Half the public (51%) think that In focus groups conducted by Public Agenda for its parents who don't know how to communicate with education studies. teachers consistently complained their kids are very common. "You have to spend qual- that today's parents challenge their decisions and ity time with the child." said a New York woman. often refuse to consider even the possibility that their "Just talk. What happened today? I am here for you. children are at fault in matters of discipline or acade- Whatever it is. now is the time. let's talk.' That does mic effort. A New York teacher in a focus group for not happen anymore." Said a Utah man. "Just being this study echoed this theme: "What really bugs me is with your kids as much as you can is important. Help that kids have all these rights. I thought kids are them with their homework. explain things to them." minors. meaning they need the protection of society. Parents: We Can't Tell Them No If you say something to Since when did these minors somebody else's kids - who I think are supposed Interestingly. the very people closest to this issue - nowadays, you are going to be protected - all of a parents themselves - are as critical of parents as 0 get into it with their sudden get all of these rights? everyone else. About two-thirds of parents (65% say parents." - woman, CA So now. as a teacher. if I say. it's common for parents to have children before they 'Shut up and sit down.' I am are ready to take responsibility for them. "You have to the one in trouble because I used the word 'shut up. be with them as much as you can." said a Utah father. after the kid has been telling me to commit unnatural who added with regret. "I had one son. and I knew he acts upon myself It is like we are both equals. was going out drinking. He'd come in and say. Well. Who am I to tell him to sit down and pay attention? I'm here Mom and Dad.' And we never got up to see This is nonsense!" Some adults. like this one from whether he was drunk or not. I knew he was on drugs." New Jersey. refer back to times when the teacher's decisions were accepted and even reinforced in the Half the parents surveyed think it's very common for home: "When I was in school. if I ever came home to parents not to do their job on discipline. Only I in 5 my father and told him a teacher hit me. he would (19%) say it's very common for parents to be good beat the hell out of me and then ask me why later. role models and teach their kids right from wrong. In Today. the kid comes home and says The teacher hit Denver. a mother tried to explain the lack of confi- me. and they want to sue." dence and vacillation she saw among parents: Spare The Love, Ruin The Child "A lot of mv friends feel insecure in their role as par- ents. and they don let the child know. / am the boss. Much of the public's criticisms of parents might be you are the child. They want to be friends with them. / taken to be a call to return to an old-fashioned. pater- think they don't want to relive their parents (style of nalistic. severe mode of parenting. But people's belief parenting] where it was too structured and disciplined. hat children need values and discipline does not And they have guilt for leaving the kid in dav care all mean people are ready to return to the austere child- dav and running off to work. So it's We can tell them rearing practices of the past. To the contrary. people no, we must buy them everything they want." believe parents must talk with their children. show interest in their lives. give them love. and put their It is interesting that this parent talked about discipline interests first. "Dr. Spock" norms have penetrated in the same breath as materialism - much as the gen- most Americans' consciousness and carry more than a eral public did. About half (51%) of the parents sur- faddish. feel-good appeal. People believe that love veyed believe it's very common for parents to think and guidance are needed to raise healthy children who that buying things for kids means the same thing as will become responsible and caring adults. Indeed. caring for them. one fear is that if the family fails to provide love and guidance. young people will seek it elsewhere. 14 © 1997 Public Agenda Many parents also agree that parents are perhaps Are Kids Priority One! overly sensitive to criticisms or suggestions about their children. approximately 4 in 101425 say par- While some parents are ready to shift some of the ents who resent advice about their kids are very com- blame to society. many Americans believe. in contrast. mon. A California mother thought parents were defen- that too many parents put their sive because of a sense of guilt. Parents are not own personal needs and chal- around their kids as much lenges ahead of the needs of Many parents seem tenta- so they become more tive and uncertain in mat- protective of their child. So if someone else tries to their children. Fifty-five per- come in and even says something cent of Americans say parents ters of discipline and break up their marriages too authority, and many easily. instead of trying to stay believe that society is Parental Authority together for their kids. "There increasingly likely to Many parents acknowledge that far too many of their are a lot of single-parent question their judgment in this area. number fail to fulfill their responsibilities to their chil- homes. and children are alone dren. But many also complained that society has all the time." said a New undermined their authority as parents. particularly Jersey woman explaining why kids are in trouble. "I with regard to discipline. In nearly every focus group. think the big problem is so many divorces and single- at least one respondent brought up the subject of cor- mother families that are having a tough time." said a poral punishment as an example of how society sec- Utah man. By virtually identical numbers. parents ond-guesses parents and looks over their shoulders. themselves agree with all of these assessments. There is very little evidence in this study that most parents see spanking as the "be all and end all" of And. finally. there is also a sense that parents take on raising well-behaved children. But many spoke with too many activities that needlessly compete with their some anguish about the more complicated nature of kids for attention. "I think kids are in real crisis. and parental authority today. parents just don't get it," said a woman from Georgia. "They're missing the point that you just can't do "The law is against the parents on discipline." com- effective parenting when you are this spread out. plained one California parent. "That gives the kid the involved in so many things. Quality time. one-on-one mind that. 1 can do what I want to because my moth- time - I think they're missing it." er and father better not hit me because I am going to call 911 Many parents. by their own report. seem tentative and uncertain in matters of discipline and authority. and many believe that society is increasingly likely to question their judgment in this area. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 15 FINDING FOUR: Mitigating Circumstances Americans acknowledge it is tougher to be a parent or a child in today world. They recognize that more than ever. parents - and especially mothers must work hard and sacrifice for their children. Americans also believe today youngsters face threats from society that can undermine their parents' best efforts. People are extremely concerned about ubiquitous threats endangering all kids: drugs and crime: sex and vio- lence in the media: and public schools that often fail to deliver education in a safe and orderly environment. Many Americans have strong criticisms of the job are profoundly conscious of fundamental changes that parents are doing. But these criticisms coexist - have made the job of parenting tougher than ever simultaneously and side-by-side with substantial before. In fact. 4 in 5 Americans say it's much harder levels of empathy and understanding for what peo- for parents to do their job these days. while only ple see as the enormously difficult and challenging about I in 5 (19%) say it's easier or about the same as undertaking that raising children has become. These in the past. coexisting viewpoints may appear to be contradicto- ry. but ordinary citizens seem to recognize the com- Thus. the harsh judgments about parental failings plexity of the situation. and the sometimes tumul- described in Finding Three are coupled with - and tuous circumstances of modern life. Instead of at least partially mitigated by - an acknowledg- choosing to simply condemn parents or to view ment that parents often struggle and make financial them as totally helpless or blameless. Americans sacrifices for their kids. Half of all Americans seem to simultaneously subscribe to two truths: (51%) say that parents who sacrifice and work hard These are tough times - maybe the toughest of for their kids are very common. Forceful finger- times - to be a parent. but parents are not rising to pointing at parents is inevitably linked with some meet the challenge. recognition of the pressures they face. pressures that lead them to make compromises and take Tough Times To Be A Parent short-cuts in parenting. Americans recognize the many challenges and "They have no choice but to go out there and work. demands facing today parents and families. They So a lot of them. unfortunately. when they do come home. then put their kids in front of the TV ser so they can cook. - New York woman BEING A PARENT TODAY "I think me have another problem - for family budget reasons. both parents are out working. Do you think it's much harder or much easier for Whereas vears ago my mother never worked and parents to do their job these days. or do you think my father used 10 say, You will never work as long it's about the same? as / am around. Todav it is just the opposite - they both have to work. And that leaves the child under the care of someone else. and that's where a lot of About the problems start." - New Jersey man same Much easier They may not be happy about it. but the public knows that the Leave It To Beaver days are gone. 17% "My father. as a single wage-earner. took care of five children." said an Ohio man. "I don't think that can be done now. So now mothers feel the need to go out and work so they can live to a certain standard." The Pressure On Mothers 81% While people in the focus groups pointed to the absence of mothers in the home as a problem. Americans clearly believe that most mothers work because they have to. not because, they've chosen self-fulfilling careers over the well-being of their Much harder kids. Specifically. 3 in 4 people believe it's very common for mothers to give up time with their kids 16 © 1997 Public Agenda to work and make ends meet: only 27% say it's very thankful that they did not have children. a striking common for mothers to give up time with their kids so reversal from times past. when not having children they can work for personal satisfaction. An Illinois was seen as cause for pity. "I consider it a real bless- woman with grown children spoke sympathetically ing that I don't have any children." said a woman about the plight of today's mothers: "For mothers who from lowa. "It is a job that is never over." are working today. it's the stress of doing a full-time job. and then coming home and doing the things you Environmental Hazards need to do with your kids. and even to further your own education. That's a lot of stress." People also recognize that today's kids - even those with parents who work hard to raise them properly - New-Age Dads face a world of dangers and temptations that threaten their well-being. Not only must parents double their What society expects from fathers has changed efforts to make ends meet. they also face the daunting markedly. well beyond the legislative focus on getting task of raising respectful. "deadbeat dads" to fulfill their financial responsibili- helpful. morally-grounded ties. What do Americans expect from fathers who are children in a world fraught Parents face the daunting with their families? "It's a confusing time." said an with hazards and decidedly task of raising respectful, Ohio man. "There was a time for my father's genera- mixed messages about what's helpful, morally-grounded tion when what it meant to be a father was a lot sim- right and wrong. "I don't like children in a world fraught with hazards and decid- pler. a lot clearer. It isn't today. There's the modern. the world I am raising my new-age guy who's trying to figure out how to be a kids in." said a Denver father. edly mixed messages. warm. loving. caring father - not domineering and "Today's world. it stinks and I traditional. And then there's the totally absent one that don't like it." Americans think these are uniquely dif- can't deal with it." ficult times for kids: more than 8 in 10 (83%) say it's harder to be a kid growing up in America these days: One change has been the notion that fathers can and only 16% say it is easier or about the same. The sur- should show affection and love to their children. while vey asked people to rate the severity of problems chil- still being considered "men." But only about I in 5 dren and teenagers face. Topping the public's list of (22%) Americans say that such fathers are very com- the problems facing youngsters is drug and alcohol mon. Fathers agree - only about I in + (27%) think abuse. which 7 in 10 Americans (71%) consider a that the affectionate. loving Dad is very common. very serious problem. "Nowadays you get young kids - 13. 14. 15 carrying guns and beepers, and they Another change has challenged the notion that a want to be little drug dealers on the corner." said a father has fulfilled his responsibility simply by putting California woman. "I think it's harder [to be a kid] "food on the table." As a California mother put it: "If today. Because we didn't have AIDS. crack. all these he is just being there. wearing the pants. it is better if he is not there at all. If he is not going to be with these kids. and talk to these kids. it is better that he is not there." The image of fathers is better here: only BEING A KID TODAY 35% of the general public thinks it's very common for fathers to put their jobs ahead of their kids. Once Overall. is it easier or harder to be a kid growing up in again. fathers essentially agree (37%). America these days. or is it about the same? The job That's Never Over About the People can easily imagine moments where the pres- same Easier Don't know sures of life can get to the most devoted parents. By 4% an almost 2-to-1 margin (63% to 32%). Americans believe that "most parents face times when they really need help raising their kids" instead of the alternate proposition that "most parents can handle the job of raising their kids without help." Indeed. people even give some benefit of the doubt to parents of young- sters who are struggling and getting into trouble. Only 11% of the public believes that such parents are irre- 83% sponsible: people are more likely to believe that such parents are simply overwhelmed by their own person- Harder al problems (40%). In fact. the extraordinary challenges people see for today's families led some non-parents to be openly KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 17 drugs kids are exposed to." said a New York woman. the first date And this IS enforced in movies. in Seven in 10 people 169c also see excessive violence television all over. And the lack of respect for your and sex on television and in the movies as a very sen- elders. ous problem. "They just show things they shouldn't be showing on the local TV channel." said a frustrated But in the end. people are most likely to return to the Denver mother. "There is semi-nudity on TV now. moral definition of the problem. When survey respon- When I was growing up. I watched / Love Lucy: and dents who described several problems as very serious they never showed those people in bed together - were asked to choose the one most critical of all. the they had two separate beds." Another mother in the plurality (25% pointed to young people's failure to same group responded in agreement: "Even if you are learn values such as honesty and respect. Another watching a decent show or a radio station you have 12% pointed to youngsters failure to learn religious chosen. then you get the commercials coming in and. faith and values. Oh. I thought I was safe for 15 minutes. Parents particularly seem to feel that they have no place to The Suburbs - And Beyond hide. even when they seek to control the influences to which their kids are exposed. Once again. the public overwhelmingly believes these problems threaten all of America's youth. not just the Crime and gangs are another very serious threat to kids. disadvantaged. Those who identified problems as very according to 62% of the population. "The streets are so or somewhat serious were asked how widespread they dangerous in certain communities." said a California are. Ninety-five percent believe that drug and alcohol man. "[You don't want kids] hanging out on the street abuse is a widespread problem. not one affecting only with a bicycle - there might be a drive-by shooting." children from lower-income families. Nine in ten (91%) think the failure to teach kids such values as Schools: No Longer A Safe Haven honesty. respect. and responsibility is widespread. with only 8% linking it only to lower-income children. The And finally. there IS also growing disappointment same is true for crime and education. areas where mid- with the public schools. which half (49%) of those dle-class families are supposed to have an advantage: surveyed believe fail to give kids a good education. two-thirds (67%) view crime and gangs as widespread. Prior Public Agenda studies while more than three-quarters (76%) consider failing have documented the roots of public schools to be a widespread problem. People tended to draw this disaffection - a sense together laundry lists of that schools fail to teach the The Bottom Line: Raise Them Right daunting social pressures academic basics in a safe and facing young people today, orderly environment. Even as Whether the problems young people face result more ticking problems off one by educators protest that the from parents or from social pressures is a widely- one as a sad testimony to schools face the same societal debated question. dividing American politicians. edu- how much the meaning of problems identified above. cators. and social commentators. The American peo- childhood has changed. the public adds the quality of pie seem to share this division. When pressed to education to the list of seri- choose whether the difficulties facing kids today are ous problems facing kids mostly the result of irresponsible parents or social and today. And not only do people blame the schools for economic pressures. people split about evenly - failure to deliver on their educational mission. many +4% to 41%. believe they no longer offer the safe haven of struc- ture and discipline that young people need in order to Still. even after they recognize that these are tough thrive. For example. 7 in 10 people say drugs and times for parents. teens. and young children. and that violence are problems in the public schools, and even every parent can face occasions when they are youngsters see this as a problem.⁶ pressed. people often return to the refrain: if you're going to have children. raise them right. "We all have Survey questions. by design. are meant to tease apart personal problems." said a New Jersey man. "some different aspects of an issue: but in the focus group greater than others. But whoever has children. you discussions. people tended to draw together laundry have to put those problems aside and you've got to do lists of daunting social pressures facing young people your best to try to raise your children right and set a today. ticking problems off one by one as a sad testi- good example for them." In the public's mind. no mony to how much the meaning of childhood has matter what the personal problems and social pres- changed. "It is a breakdown of a lot of things." said a sures are. parents are obligated to shoulder the New York man. "It is the drugs that flow freely. the responsibility for their children's upbringing. moral factor as far as it is okay to jump into bed on 18 1997 Public Agenda FINDING FIVE: Never Give Up Notwithstanding their extensive criticisms of young people. Americans refuse to give up on kids. They care deeply about their well-being and believe that tackling the issue is of paramount importance to our society. Most encouraging. they are stubborn!y optimistic about the chances of reclaiming the lives of even the most troubled teens. Despite their deep disappointment over how teens and Almost All Can Learn children are turning out. Americans demonstrate sur- prisingly high levels of caring and sympathy toward Nor are people willing to give up on a young person's young people. More importantly. they believe that potential to learn. achieve. and - with the right kind confronting the challenges youngsters face espe- of help - contribute to society. The refusal to give up cially the moral ones - is a paramount and urgent on kids. to practice triage on the tough cases. contin- national priority. ues when it comes to schools and education. Given a choice between two views. 74% say that given About 7 in 10 people (71%) say the statement "I am enough help and attention. just about all youngsters strongly moved when I see media stories about chil- can learn and succeed in school: only 21% say that dren suffering" comes very close to how they feel. some just won't learn or succeed. no matter how They also recognize the importance of this issue for much help and attention they get. the nation's future. As noted earlier. slightly more than half of those surveyed (52%) say that helping Most people just do not believe that youngsters are kids get a good start in life is more important than "born bad." or that they are unreachable and not creating more jobs. protecting citizens from crime. or worth salvaging. In fact. people's comments often helping the poor or homeless. reveal an undertone of faith in the capacity of young people to transcend their sur- Redeemable, Retrievable roundings or shaky begin- nings. "Kids are resilient and Most people just do not Americans display an extraordinary. almost stubborn. they will survive." said a believe that youngsters refusal to write young people off as unsalvageable. Nebraska woman. People may are "born bad," or that Almost three-quarters (72% say that "given enough recognize that some kids can they are unreachable and love and kindness. just about any kid can be reached." be "a handful." that it might not worth salvaging. A Denver man's comment was typical: "All kids can take supreme effort to invest be helped if you get to them early enough. if you affection in a tough child. But Spend time with them." they still want society and parents - to make that effort. to keep trying. because there IS likely to be a From the public's viewpoint. even the toughest pay-off at the end. "Strong-willed children are very youngsters - teenagers already in real trouble - tough to love unconditionally." said a Denver mother. can be redeemed. given the right kind of effort. Even "and all kids need unconditional love - especially when the survey presented them with a scenario from parents. But they are the ones that. if you can about "the tough customers" - teenagers who are just let them know you love them no matter what. always getting into trouble at school and in their they are the ones who are going to be super achievers neighborhood - 85% believe given enough atten- the people who make the difference in the world" tion and the right kind of guidance. almost all such teens can get back on track: only 11% say instead By Virtue Of Their Character that many of these teens are beyond the point where they can be helped. Is this insistence that it is never too ate unrealistic. merely an example of Americans' instinctive opti- "It is not too late to redirect a young adult. to teach mism? Are people simply offering socially acceptable him an alternative. But you have to treat him as a responses? Perhaps. But people consistently draw on semi-adult now instead of a child. They always say personal experience to share examples of individuals you can't straighten a tree after it is grown. But I still able to surmount the roughest environments and most think that if that kid gets to be 18 vears old. you can difficult personal challenges. In every part of the show him the road." - California man country. people in every walk of life relate stories about late-bloomers. people who managed to over- come harsh beginnings by virtue of their character. and kids who were failures in school but somehow as adults discovered latent talents. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 19 What's more. many people acknowledge that they Americans stubbornly resist giving up on individual themselves were no angels growing up and presum- youngsters or abandoning an entire generation. But if ably believe they turned out all right). Slightly more people believe that kids can straighten out and devel- than half (54%) say that they got into mischief as op the values and attitudes that will guide them into youngsters. at least on occasion. The notion that one responsible adulthood. how do they think that can might get into trouble. then straighten out. fits peo- happen? ple's own experience and their recognition that the path to productive adulthood IS seldom a straight line. 20 © 1997 Public Agenda FINDING SIX: Solutions That Miss The Mark Government programs aimed at improving the health and economic circumstances of young people miss the mark in three important ways as far as the public is concerned. First. Americans define the children's issue as predominantly moral in nature. not one of money or health. Second. people believe the crux of the problem is parents. not a lack of government programs. And third. welfare has left a legacy of skepticism about govern- ment intervention on behalf of the family. Even when it comes to low-income. at-risk kids. Americans doubt that such programs could help. They suspect that parents who need such programs will fail to take advantage of them. In recent years the most visible and dominant govern- sessions without public outcry. it's probably because mental efforts to address the problems of young peo- they fail to address the public's fundamental concerns. ple have centered on measures to improve their physi- cal well-being and economic circumstances. Yet such Parents Remain The Key ideas fail to attract much enthusiasm from the general public or - even more puzzling to some children's As already noted. people believe that children thrive advocates - from parents themselves. From the pub- when their parents care for them and teach them right lic's perspective. such efforts are beside the point for from wrong. They hold parents responsible when their three reasons: people fundamentally view the chil- children go astray. This frustrates many children's dren's issue as moral in nature - better values and advocates who want to bring the children's issue into character are what's needed. not necessarily more the public policy realm. much as some European spending: people think parents are not doing their job nations do. While parents are responsible for their when it comes to "raising kids right" and severely own children. advocates say. society as a whole must doubt government programs can take their place: and still assume some responsibility for the next genera- people harbor doubts that government programs to tion for its own good. if help the family can truly work given their perceptions for no other reason. But of how welfare turned out. When presented with a to the public. the fate of range of 10 possible prob- young people chiefly lems facing young people The Real Problem: Morality, hinges upon how well today - from drugs to Values, And Character parents care for them crime to a failure to learn - and how and what values - a shortage of gov- The most fundamental reason efforts to improve nutri- they teach them day-in tion and health care for children fail to resonate with ernment programs ranks and day-out. This last on the list. the public is that people define the children's issue in image is so strong in terms of morality. values. and character. Since this is the public mind that hardly the stuff of most government programs. it is not efforts to move the focus of attention to what govern- surprising that few Americans (27%) consider a short- ment does for children and teenagers would seem to age of such programs to be a very serious problem. In hold little promise of success. fact. when presented with a range of 10 possible prob- lems facing young people today - from drugs to In the public's mind. government programs that aim crime to a failure to learn values - a shortage of gov- to supply the health and financial needs of youngsters emment programs ranks last on the list. Comparing cannot remedy the most glaring failures of parents - this result to an earlier finding in which 61% think the failure to be there for their children and to take kids' failure to learn such values as honesty, respect. responsibility for the development of their character. and responsibility is a very serious problem. makes People are thinking: "We might succeed at immuniz- clear where the public stands on this issue. ing children against a full range of diseases: but how will that improve the quality of parenting and teach- To the public. it may not be so much that health ini- ing they get at home? How will that make their par- tiatives on behalf of children and teenagers are worth- ents better parents?" less. Indeed. there is an archive of survey findings suggesting at least some support for a variety of such A Legacy Of Government Failure proposals. The key point is they do not speak to the public's definition of the issue. and they are therefore But what about parents who - for a variety of rea- seen as less relevant. in this study. only 34% say more sons - are just not up to the job of parenting? Should government funding for child and health care pro- government take the lead in trying to help them? grams would be a very effective way to help kids. If When asked. "When parents have serious trouble rais- such initiatives languish during legislative log-rolling ing their kids properly. who is in a better position to KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 21 step in with help - other than relatives or close In this study. almost 6 in 10 Americans (58%) believe friends?" only 118 opt for government agencies and that welfare programs that encourage single-parent programs. 795 would rely on private efforts such as families and teen pregnancy pose a very serious prob- volunteer organizations or neighbors and citizens who lem for today's young people. And. perhaps predict- pull together. ably. only 10% believe that increasing government funding for such welfare programs as AFDC and food The extreme reluctance to stamps would be a very effective way to help young The public's repudiation count on the government. people. "I am thinking about the government pro- of welfare was driven not even for the neediest. most grams that have not helped a whole lot of people - by its costs but by a sense troubled families. reflects for instance. welfare." said a California woman. that welfare rewarded grave doubts about the effica- "People are still on welfare who have been on it for values and behaviors cy - and wisdom - of ask- years. That's their livelihood: that's their career." that are anathema to ing government programs to most Americans. rescue families in trouble. "I Will They Come: don't think we should turn to the government for help." said But how government goes about helping the poor is a Denver woman. "I don't want them to come up with not the only source of public skepticism. People also more ways for them to take our children and raise harbor serious doubts about whether those who need them." such programs make good use of them. When asked to evaluate government programs to help low-income. A principle source of this reluctance is the legacy of at-risk kids and families. only 8% say such programs government welfare programs. prompting people to usually succeed. The vast majority (71%) say the define government as causing problems for the poor. results are mixed. while 19% say the programs usual- not solving them. In a 1996 study. The Values We Live ly fail. Most interesting is the public's explanation for B\: What Americans Want from Welfare Reform. why such programs usually fail or produce mixed Public Agenda found the public's repudiation of wel- results. Only 5% say the reason is a lack of money. fare was driven not by its costs but by a sense that Instead. nearly 4 in 10 (38%) believe the programs welfare rewarded values and behaviors that are anath- are poorly designed. while 51% believe it is because ema to most Americans. The public concluded that a the parents who need these programs don't make program motivated by good intentions had gone seri- good use of them. About half of the public thus ously awry and was perpetuating and exacerbating the believes that it is the failure of at-risk parents to use very problems it was intended to fix. Why? For one government programs that helps explain the lack of thing. the program focused on caring for the material results. and financial needs of recipients without making any morally-based demands upon them - that they work "You can't force parents to do what we all agree they in return for their benefits. for example. or that they should do." said a woman from Georgia who works continuously strive to climb out of dependency. For with juveniles and at-risk families. "You can legislate another. the public believed welfare undermined a program. but I don't know how you enforce a pro- rather than supported the family.8 gram I don't know how you force people to do that. Even if we have their kids. we can't force them to do it." 22 © 1997 Public Agenda FINDING SEVEN: Solutions That Show Promise Because they define the problem as one of values. Americans gravitate toward solutions that help develop young people's character. People believe the schools should help teach kids discipline. honesty. and respectful- ness toward themselves and others. They believe community centers and volunteer organizations like the Boy Scouts could be effective because they lend moral structure to youngsters' lives. If people do not look.to government for effective their perspective. the social environment tolerated at solutions. what do they think might help? People see public schools - the behavior that is overlooked or a need for action in several arenas. and they are sur- allowed to go unpunished - undermines. rather than prisingly pragmatic and clear-sighted about what they reinforces. what they try so hard to teach at home. think will work. Keep Kids Busy Schools Should Reinforce Values Since people believe that leaving young people with After parents. people look to public schools as soci- nothing to do is asking for trouble. one attractive ety's most critical point of contact with young people. solution is more after-school programs - seen by 6 But just as the public voices dissatisfaction with par- in 10 Americans as a very effective way to help kids. ents' performance. people also believe that public "When my daughters were pre-school age. there were schools have abandoned their traditional and essential many things they could do." noted a Denver mother. role of reinforcing responsibility. integrity. and respect "But now at the ages of 10 and 13. there are very. - along with teaching academics. (Recall that about very few things. and what half identified inadequate public education as a very there are cost a lot. And now serious problem.) People believe that if the schools do is when they really need it." The public doubly values a better job. young people will turn out better. In fact. The public doubly values such such after-school pro- two-thirds (67%) say that improving the public programs. since they not only grams, since they not only schools would be a very effective way to help young take kids off the streets and take kids off the streets. people. give them constructive things but also provide them with to do. but also provide them the structure and adult But people's definition of what a good education with the structure and adult guidance they believe includes goes beyond conveying academic skills. guidance they believe are are missing. Studies by Public Agenda have shown repeatedly that missing from youngsters' the public overwhelmingly believes schools should daily lives. reach values along with academics. "Schools have a social role as well." pointed out a Denver woman. "I We [need] more community-based programs for think that IS eminently important. equally as important these children after school. so that they are not as teaching them the basics of academics." latchkev kids. More programs that teach kids athletics things of that nature.' -California woman The values people want schools to teach are straight- forward - and not likely to generate much controver- For the same reasons. more than half of those sur- 5! Basically, people want schools to teach the values veyed (53%) also believe that greater reliance on vol- and standards of behavior that will stand kids in good unteer organizations like the Boy Scouts would be a stead out in the real world being responsible. on very effective way to help kids. In fact. the Scout Law time. and disciplined (83% the value of hard work is a promise to be trustworthy. loyal. helpful. friendly. (78%): and honesty and tolerance of others (74%).º courteous and more - a fairly neat summation of what Americans want young people everywhere to Educators sometimes complain that instilling strong learn. character traits and teaching acceptable social behav- for are tasks that more properly belong to parents. But Help Parents Have More Time the public wants the schools to supplement and rein- force the values parents should provide. They do not Since parents are the key to good kids. and because expect schools to replace parents. "You can model people do recognize the stress that the workplace puts good behavior at school. but youngsters don't spend on parents' ability to do their job. more than half the bulk of their time in school." said an Illinois those surveyed (55%) think more flexible work sched- woman. "So if you're going to educate them with a ules would be very effective to help young people. value system. it's going to have to come from home." "Usually now. both mothers and fathers are working." And many parents are quick to point out that from said a Utah man. "and they can't get home before the KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 23 kids are out of school. That When To Get Firm And How Perhaps people doubt where the big problem is." that the media will be The public sees so many fam- Whatever else happens. many people say it is critical responsive to public thes under such pressure and to keep kids off the streets where they can easily get pressure, or wonder just rushing to meet their many into. or cause. trouble. Fifty-three percent of those how much influence they obligations that they want to participating in the survey consider nighttime curfews as individuals can bring help parents better juggle for kids to be a very effective way to help them. to bear. their responsibilities. By con- "Their parents are letting them out until midnight trast. only 37% think holding when they are in the sixth grade." complained a New parents legally responsible Jersey man. People are thinking: if parents are not when their kids get into trouble would be very effec- keeping their kids off the streets late at night, the law tive - another indication that the public considers the should force them to do so. issue as more complicated than simple parental malfeasance. Half of the public (48%) believe that an effective measure to help youngsters is tougher punishment for The Problem Without A Solution: those who commit crime. Public Agenda's research on The Media attitudes toward crime indicates that people place great stock in how the criminal justice system Given the intense complaints about the media. it is responds to a young offender's first brush with the somewhat surprising that only half of those surveyed law. The worst lesson to transmit to such youngsters. (49%) think pressuring the entertainment industry to people believe. is that they can commit a crime - no produce movies and music with less violence and sex matter how petty - and just get away with it. People will be a very effective way to help kids. Perhaps peo- believe that the proverbial slap on the wrist only ple doubt that the industry will be responsive to pub- invites further. and ever worsening. violations. At the lic pressure. or wonder just how much influence they same time. people also are loath to put juvenile as individuals can bring to bear. Only 37% believe offenders who have not committed violent crimes in that protesting violence or sex in the media would prison. fearing that the experience will only make help a lot. People may also question whether it is real- them worse. The public's list of preferred sanctions is ly possible to return to the days when most media therefore very instructive: boot camp. community ser- content was at the G or PG level. vice. or restitution with intense supervision. All of these sanctions are intended to teach young offenders discipline. hard work. and responsibility. The consis- tent recurrence of these themes across different stud- ies - from education. to welfare. to crime - is quite striking.¹⁰ 24 © 1997 Public Agenda FINDING EIGHT: Will Individual Americans Help? Americans are convinced that young people need adults in their lives who will help guide them to responsi- ble adulthood. But will Americans - as individuals - help in the task? People say all the right things about helping. but they also have concerns. Many are not sure that their efforts will be well received. They fear embarrassing those they are trying to help. They want to make sure that they themselves are not taken advan- tage of Finally. many Americans believe that those who receive help should show their appreciation. return the favor when they can. and take responsibility for helping themselves. As it is. only about a third of Americans volunteer regularly. The notion of neighbor helping neighbor. or even of Any Time Left To Give! well-intended strangers helping others simply because they need help. is a powerful one with deep roots in Many of those concerned about rebuilding the tradi- American history. The barn-raising that tapped a com- tion of volunteering in American life fear that the real munity's collective energy may have all but disap- problem is a lack of time. Circumstances for most peared. but its poignancy still speaks to many citizens. families have changed dramatically: women have Highly-publicized efforts to rejuvenate volunteerism entered the workforce in large numbers: most people in Americans have recently been launched. These must commute to their jobs: and those jobs are more efforts presume that there is a reservoir of energy and demanding than ever. But lack of time. based on this helpfulness among Americans waiting to be tapped. study. seems to be an obstacle of somewhat lesser importance to most Americans. Giving From The Heart When asked to pick one statement out of three that best describes how much free time they have. only So many Americans say the right things about helping 24% of Americans say all of their time is spoken for. others that such a reservoir of helpfulness does About 3 in 10 (29%) say they have enough free time appear to exist. but this untapped energy exists side- to do something new if they want to. and 46% say by-side with concerns about when and how to lend a they are pretty busy but could hand. On the positive side. 3 in 4 Americans strongly find time to do something believe that helping others is the right thing to do. An new. For most Americans Only 34% of Americans even higher percentage (85%) say that helping others today. extra time seems to be say they regularly partici- makes them feel good. Seventy-four percent say when like disposable income - an pate in volunteer groups they were growing up. their parents taught them that elastic concept. Look hard that do charity work or helping others was important. A New Jersey woman. enough. and chances are you community service. for example. emphasized the positive aspects when will find it. she reflected on what helping others meant to her: "That personal sense of self-worth. that good feeling People do seem more open to volunteer opportunities you get from helping somebody just out of the good- that fit into pre-existing schedules. Almost half of ness of your heart. It is something beyond money." A Americans (47%) say they would be much more like- California woman who seemed to be no stranger to ly to help young people if they could do so occasion- the act of helping voiced a similar notion. "The main ally whenever they found extra time. instead of mak- thing is that when you help somebody. you feel so ing a regular commitment. Half the parents surveyed good inside. you give it from your heart and let it go." say they would be much more likely to volunteer to help kids if they could bring them along to an activity But Actions Speak Louder Than Words they already do with their own children. Despite these overwhelmingly positive expressions. Overall. however. lack of time does not seem to be there appears to be a sharp drop-off between those the chief barrier stopping people from helping others. who say helping others is a good thing and the num- ber of people who actually act on their good inten- The Loss Of Confidence tions. In this study. only 34% of Americans say they regularly participate in volunteer groups that do chari- A far more troubling obstacle is the doubt many ty work or community service. although many respon- Americans voice about whether helping out will bring dents express positive sentiments towards the value of the positive benefits and reactions people yearn for. volunteerism. So what accounts for this drop-off? If Many people seem to have lost confidence that the people say they believe so strongly in the benefits of human-to-human interaction involved in helping will helping, what is stopping them from doing more? KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Reality Think About The Next Generation 25 he comfortable. natural. and trouble-free. Their con- More Generous In Safer Territory cerns are diverse and multi-layered. but all reflect a sense that there are great differences among people Obviously. when people are operating within their that could cause problems when they reach out to regular circle among people whose responses they help - differences in what people want. how they feel they can accurately anticipate - their level of will respond. what they expect. comfort and confidence increases dramatically. Fully 71% say they would be very comfortable watching a Many Americans. for example. express concerns that child for a neighbor who has to run an errand. their efforts to help will embarrass or insult the very Another 56% would be very comfortable helping a persons they are intended to benefit. Over half (56%) neighbor who is a new mother with a baby. say. "You have to be careful to avoid embarrassing people when you in to help them." The Importance Of Hearing "Thank You" Perhaps an even more telling indication that modern times have dampened Americans volunteer spirit is a Another significant barrier to giving help is people's widespread fear of intruding on someone's privacy or sense that their efforts may not be appreciated or may trampling on their rights. Respondents in focus groups not result in any significant change or increased self- repeatedly expressed fears that their good intentions reliance on the part of recipients. Americans still might be misread. rejected. and even turned against believe the ideal helper is, as this California man them. The risk of getting sued came up often in con- describes it. someone willing to assist from the versations about helping. As one Kansas man put it. heart. regardless of the situation." But while they may "People are less inclined to get involved in things. I not start out looking for a "thank you." most people think they are afraid they get sued nowadays." notice when they do not get it. Even more important. people want to see some results from their exertions Many Americans seem especially sensitive when it - help should lead to reciprocation. to progress and comes to intervening with parents concerning the improvement. not to perpetuating a hopeless. endless behavior of children. Only 33% of Americans would state of need. be very comfortable telling a neighbor their child had been getting into mischief. and only 4 in 10 (39%) One of the most important expectations. shared by would be very comfortable telling kids who are mis- 60% of Americans queried. is that people who get behaving in a public area to help should show appreciation - should say "thank behave themselves. As one you." In focus groups. many people remembered help- Respondents in focus California woman put it. ing someone without receiving such thanks. and the groups repeatedly "Now if I go out there to say experience left a bitter taste in their mouths. This New expressed fears that their something to somebody else's Jersey woman was unusually explicit: "You don't good intentions might be kid. I may get cursed." want to do it for people unless they say Thank you. misread. rejected, and Some people don't even acknowledge your help." even turned against them. People's uncertainty about interceding - about stepping Most Americans (51%) also want those who benefit precipitously into other peo- from help to return the favor when they can. The ple's private lives even came up regarding report- notion of reciprocity plays out powerfully when It ing possible child abuse. While certainly concerned comes to people's views on aiding the poor through about children's welfare. many respondents in focus welfare. One of the most compelling expectations groups acknow ledged real discomfort in reporting Americans had of welfare reform was that it places an suspected abuse to authorities. Almost half (47%) of obligation upon recipients to do something in return the people surveyed say they would feel very com- for the help they get. Almost 6 in 10 Americans fortable taking action if they suspected a neighbor of (57%) thought it absolutely essential that welfare abusing a child. but many expressed fears about mak- reform require "recipients to do community service in ing such a serious charge when they did not have all exchange for benefits" while 85% said they would be the facts. Others acknowledged that different families satisfied if welfare recipients were "required to do often view corporal punishment in different ways. something in exchange for their benefits - even if it and seemed reluctant to impose their own standards was just raking leaves or cleaning roads."! unless the abuse was truly severe. A Colorado Springs man explained his calculations this way. "I The idea that recipients were continually being given shouldn't go in there and tell somebody how to raise something for nothing struck people as counterpro- their kids. but if I see something abusive. I'll report it ductive. More importantly, they saw it as insulting to to the authorities." their own efforts to struggle and work hard. In this study. half the people surveyed say they help when they yes that it makes a difference for other people. It's ttant for people to feel that they are con- 26 © 1997 Public Agenda tributing 10 J solution. rather than merely applying a Reciprocators Band- Aid to a perpetual. insoluble problem. Another important and distinctive group are the "reci- People Are Different procators" - people who strongly believe that some- one who gets help should return the favor and that The issues and concerns discussed so far apply broad- someone who gets help should show their apprecia- !! to Americans in every part of the country from tion. Reciprocators. who represent about 38% of the every walk of life. But people - being people - population. often focus on how the recipient of help do bring different backgrounds. experiences. and responds to their assistance. Like this man from New mindsets to the business of helping and volunteering. Jersey. they want to see progress: "What you are try- As in politics. music. fashion. and lifestyle. there are ing to do [in helping] is to show someone that they "different strokes for different folks." have to be independent. You have to stop doing and start enabling. Now you are on your own. you either Within the American public. some segments hold their succeed or fail. but at least you are learning." opinions and assumptions about helping and volun- teering with a special intensity. so much so that they More so than other Americans. reciprocators will cau- have a distinct - and unique - "world view" about tiously watch the recipients of aid to make sure they the issue. This study suggests that there are three par- will make good use of it before they pitch in. In fact. ticularly distinctive personality types when it comes 6 in 10 (59%) reciprocators say they help when they to volunteering and helping out. "Natural givers" have see the difference it makes for other people: only 45% an almost ingrained desire to help. "Reciprocators" of other Americans feel the same way. are particularly concerned that those they assist show appreciation and start to help themselves. "Condi- The Conditionals tionals" worry that volunteering may involve unpleas- ant or troubling experiences. (These distinctive per- And finally. there are the "conditionals": people who sonality types and the views of other important sub- are particularly concerned about the social circum- groups in the population are reported in more detail stances in which they grant help. worried that things in a second volume to this study.) might go wrong - especially for themselves. They are far more likely than other Americans to worry The Natural Givers about interfering in other people's personal affairs. and to worry that they them- Comprising about 16% of the population. natural selves will be taken advantage givers have few reservations about helping and betray of Conditionals represent As in politics, music, little suspicion about who gets help or about how it is about 12% of the population. fashion, and lifestyle, granted. These are the defining characteristics of nat- Often. their sense of trust in there are "different ural givers: they are particularly apt to believe people their neighbors - and in strokes for different who help others are usually appreciated: that It is themselves - has been erod- folks." important to avoid embarrassing those you try to help: ed. This woman from St. and that people usually help out of the goodness of Louis reflected on some of their hearts. Natural givers often sound as if they are those feelings. "Some people are afraid that they simply waiting to be called to action. much like this wouldn't know what to do. or they fear authority fig- woman from Illinois. "I think they really just need to ures. Or fear getting pulled into a situation they advertise the need for help and thousands of volun- couldn't handle or get out of. teers will come When you get out there and expose what the need IS. and what the goal is. you can get The mindset conditionals bring to the issue of helping people behind it." invades their outlook on specific aspects of when and how to volunteer. About 7 in 10 conditionals (69%) Because of their world view, natural givers stand out say you have to be careful about charity groups as particularly sympathetic to youngsters. Natural because some are dishonest and waste money: only givers are more likely than other Americans to believe 44% of other Americans feel the same way. Almost that "given enough. love and attention just about any twice as many conditionals as other Americans say kid could be reached" (an 85% to 69% margin). They they have tried to help people in the past. only to feel are also more likely to think that "many adults have a their effort was wasted (54% to 28%). hard time dealing with kids because they forget what it was like when they were young" (a 50% to 36% The Big Picture margin). Although specific segments of the public stand out. It is important to realize they represent widely-held views common to many Americans. These unique segments all reflect tendencies that the American pub- KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 27 he widely displays many people want to do good: Any effort to call Americans to action that ignores many people are also concerned lest they be put into these common concerns - or fails to address the awkward. perhaps even public's laser-like focus on the need to build character unpleasant. situations and moral judgment among the nation's youth - IS People want to know when helping: and unlikely to produce any long-lasting response. People their efforts will be aimed many people want want to know their efforts will be aimed at creating at creating honest, kind, helping to lead to some honest. kind. respectful. polite. and compassionate respectful. polite, long-term improvement youngsters. And they want reassurance that if they and compassionate in the condition and give their help. it will be appreciated and make a dif- youngsters. self-reliance of those ference. It is no longer enough just to say to they help. Americans: "Children are our future. Come and help." 28 © 1997 Public Agenda Special Focus: The Views Of African American, Hispanic, And White Parents In order to compare the views of African American and Hispanic parents to those of white parents. supple- mentary interviews were conducted with 300 black and 300 Hispanic parents. The results: regardless of race and ethnicity, all three groups of parents are critical of how teens and children are turning out. of the job par- ents are doing. and for the most part. all are concerned about the same social problems threatening youngsters. Where there are differences. these are usually differences in degree. not in kind. African American and Hispanic parents are sometimes more critical of today's youth than are white parents. for example. and black parents are more attracted to government child and health care programs. Teens Are Trouble children are very common. Black parents are more likely than Hispanic and white parent's to believe out- The general public's disapproval of how teenagers are of-control or lazy children are very common. Black turning out is mirrored among all parents. and black and Hispanic parents are slightly more likely than and Hispanic parents are hardly an exception in fact. whites to believe friendly or respectful children are they are often more disapproving. very common. but they are far from ready to sing their praises. For example. few African American About 7 in 10 African American. Hispanic. and white (25%) or Hispanic parents (19%) say children who parents resort to negative adjectives when describing are friendly and helpful toward their neighbors are today's teens (73%. 68%. and 71%. respectively). very common. Among white parents. the number Black and Hispanic parents are more likely than is 16%. whites to say teens who get into trouble because they have too much free time on their hands are very com- Hopes For A Better World mon (63%. 61% versus 49%). African American and Hispanic parents also are more likely than white par- Once again. just as was the case among the general ents to criticize teenagers for lacking self-discipline public. the picture is not all bad. Many parents across (49cc. 46% versus 38%). and for being disorderly and the three groups do believe that today's children are wild in public (49%. 43% versus 31%). Minority par- bright and eager to learn (40%, 37%. and 32%. ents are only slightly more likely than white parents respectively). But in the end. to have positive evaluations of teens - to say. for regardless of their racial or example. that they are helpful toward neighbors or ethnic background. parents Black and Hispanic par- treat adults with respect. concur with the general pub- ents are more likely than lic: they do not expect the cur- whites to say teens get On the other hand. minority parents view youngsters rent generation of children to into trouble because they with more empathy. Black - and to a lesser extent. fulfill or redeem hopes for a have too much free time Hispanic - parents find it easier than white parents better world. In similar on their hands. to communicate with teens (52%, 47%. and 38%. majorities. black. Hispanic. respectively). They are also more likely to say that and white parents believe many adults have a hard time with kids because they today's children will make little difference or make forget what it was like when they were younger (49%. the nation an even worse place when they grow up 42%. and 33%. respectively). (61%. 54%. and 58%. respectively). Children Too Look To The Parents Like Americans in general. the criticisms of teens As was the case with the general public, there is a carry over to children for African American. Hispanic. widespread belief - shared by about 8 in 10 black. and white parents. When asked what comes to their Hispanic, and white parents - that it is harder than mind when describing children - defined as older ever for parents to do their job. But. like Americans in than 5 but not yet teens - half or more parents from general, parents across the three groups are critical of each group resort to negative adjectives (56% of the job parents are doing in important areas of respon- black. 49% Hispanic. and 56% white). sibility. African American parents often stand out as more critical than Hispanics and whites. and simulta- Although the criticisms are not as intense as those neously more understanding of the pressures facing made of teens. parents across all groups do not view parents. children in hopeful and endearing terms. Much of the focus is on children who are spoiled, with about half Sizable majorities of black, Hispanic, and white par- of black, Hispanic. and white parents saying such ents believe parents today have children before they re KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 29 ready to take responsibility for them (72%. 69%. and neighbors care about kids. Fewer Hispanic (45%) and 63% respectively): and that they often break up too white (41%) parents agree. easily rather than in to stay together for the sake of their kids (56%. 57%. and 58%. respectively ). Many parents across all three groups echo the public's com- What To Do plaint that parents often fail to discipline their children and resent advice about their kids. And about half of If the public refuses to give up on youngsters. even in the most difficult circumstances. it is only to be parents in each group reproach parents who believe buying things for kids means the same as caring for expected that parents will evince at least the same them. Small percentages believe that parents who level of commitment. Indeed. nearly 9 in 10 African teach their kids right from wrong are very common. American. Hispanic. and white parents believe that even very troubled teens can be redeemed given African American and Hispanic parents are substan- enough attention and guidance. But are parents from tially more critical of fathers for choosing careers as different racial and ethnic backgrounds attracted to the same solutions? more important than children (47%. 39% versus 33%). and of parents in general for abusing welfare 141%. 43% versus 29%). But they also stand out as In comparable numbers. black. Hispanic, and white more mpathetic to the challenges facing parents parents look to improving the quality of schooling kids when. for example. they say parents who sacrifice and get as a key solution (76%. 67%. and 70%, respective- work hard on behalf of their children are very com- ly). And although after-school programs in community mon (65%. 58% versus 52%) or when they cite eco- centers are particularly compelling to black and nomic pressures on parents as a serious problem Hispanic parents (75% and 67%). they speak to a 160% 53% versus 42%). majority of white parents (57%) as well. Most parents in each group also believe in the effectiveness of rely- ing on volunteer organizations dedicated to young- Drugs, Crime, And Gangs sters. such as the Boy Scouts. Nor are parents across According to parents. economic pressures and the the spectrum resistant to tougher measures to keep demands of the workplace are only the beginning of kids off the streets and productive: majorities of black. the story of what makes parenting and raising children Hispanic. and white parents support nighttime curfews so difficult today. Even if parents do a good job. wide- for young people (63%. 66% and 54% respectively). spread social problems threaten children. in their view. Black and Hispanic parents are attuned to these dan- Differing Views On Government gers by larger margins. but white parents are not far Programs behind. Drug and alcohol abuse on the part of young There are some substantial differences between frican American parents people are a serious threat African American parents in particular and white par- - and to a lesser degree, according to black. Hispanic. ents. and these are often over the role of government spanic parents - are and white parents (79%. 83%. programs - although even here there are some areas ore likely to cite a short- and 67%. respectively). Crime of commonality. African American parents - and to a e of government pro- ams on behalf of kids as and gangs are another very lesser degree. Hispanic parents - are more likely to serious problem according to cite a shortage of government programs on behalf of very serious problem. 77% of both black and kids as a very serious problem (47%. 36% versus Hispanic parents. and 60% of 27% of white parents). And they are considerably white parents concur. Parents across the three groups more apt to believe that government funding for child point to schools that fail to adequately teach children as care and health programs would be a very effective another very serious problem. And wide majorities - approach to help kids (56%. 45% versus 36%). more than 7 in 10 in each group - decry sex and vio- Interestingly. black parents continue to stand out in lence in the media as threatening to the well-being of support of such programs even when their incomes young people. No wonder parents - across all groups reach middle-class levels. By contrast. although such - overwhelmingly deem it harder than ever to be a programs draw support among lower-income white youngster growing up in the U.S. and Hispanic parents. that support declines when their incomes rise. 12 Moreover. parents perceive these social threats to be widespread and not at all unique to youngsters from The racial or ethnic background of parents makes lit- disadvantaged backgrounds. For example. about 7 in tle difference. however. when it comes to views on the 10 black. Hispanic. and white parents believe the risks efficacy of welfare programs. Few black. Hispanic, or of crime and gangs are widespread. Even higher per- white parents have very much faith in the effective- centages across all three groups believe drug or alco- ness of such programs (16%, 13%. and 8%. respec- hol abuse by kids is widespread. and not limited to tively). What's more. about 7 in 10 parents in the those from lower income families. African American three groups think government programs to help at- parents do add another problem to the list of threats: risk families have led to mostly mixed results. not 58% point to a lack of strong communities where- success. Like the general public, minority parents 30 © 1997 Public Agenda attribute the lack of success to their sense that the But black parents also seem to be more careful about families that need such programs do not make good helping. For example. 6 in 10 black parents say you use of them. It is little wonder that. when it comes to have to be careful when helping parents who have serious trouble raising their helping because some kids. all three groups of parents would first look to people will try to take When talking about kids volunteer groups or neighbors - not government. advantage of good today, shared perceptions intentions. while seem to be the norm. It African American parents - and to a lesser extent. Hispanic and white par- makes very little differ- Hispanic parents - are also more likely to cite eco- ents are far less likely ence whether one is an nomic pressures on parents as a serious problem to hold this view (43% African American, (60%. 53%. and 42%. respectively). Consequently. and 34%). African Hispanic, or white parent. they also believe a proposal to increase wages and job American parents are security of parents would be an effective way to help also more likely to say kids (60%. 51%. and +4%. respectively). Once again. they help when they see the difference it makes to the black parents across income levels often continue to other person. Both African American and Hispanic worry about the impact of economic stress on kids parents are more likely to want to make sure recipi- and families. and to support increased wages and job ents of help truly want their assistance before they security. For white - and to a lesser extent. Hispanic come forward. - parents. levels of concern about such issues more closely track income levels. 13 From Where You Sit Helping And Volunteering When it comes to views about young people today. more often than not, African American. Hispanic. and Although African American. Hispanic. and white par- white parents have a shared understanding of the ents generally share the same positive views toward problem - and its solution. In turn. their views are helping and volunteerism. some differences do stand rather close to those of Americans in general. This is out. hardly surprising. When it comes to views toward race relations or criminal justice. differing historical African American parents would be much more com- and personal experiences can lead to differing percep- fortable than Hispanics or whites telling a neighbor tual lenses. But on most other issues - for example. that their child had gotten into mischief (59% versus education - attitudinal differences across racial and 37% and 37%) substantially more likely to be willing ethnic groups are usually modest at best. And when to volunteer for an organization that helps kids (63% talking about kids today. shared perceptions seem to versus 53% and 49%) and to say they had made a be the norm. It makes very little difference whether difference in the life of someone who was not a fami- one is an African American. Hispanic. or white par- ly member 161% versus 45% and 47%). ent. or whether one is watching and interacting with kids as a nonparent. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 31 Special Focus: What Kids Have To Say Teenagers surveyed as part of this study generally describe themselves as happy and say they have warm rela- tions with their parents and other adults in their lives. But large numbers also say they have plenty of time on their hands and describe an environment filled with hazards and potential trouble. A third say there is no adult in the house when they come home and about a quarter admit that they have engaged in risky behavior such as smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol. Thus far. Kids These Davs has reported what adults ing parents are critical to the emotional well-being of think about young people today: their concern that children - and most everyone agrees they are - adolescents fall far short when it comes to character most youngsters say they are in good shape when it and conduct: and their belief that parents. with very comes to this dimension of parenting. little help from society, are responsible for this state of affairs. But what do young people have to say About 8 in 10 (81%) say "I can always trust my par- about themselves. their friends. and the environment ents to be there for me when I need them." In fact. the in which they live? To find out. the study probed the percentage of adolescents saying they trust their par- views of 600 adolescents 12 to 17 years of age using ents to be there for them is higher than the percentage a questionnaire designed both to compare their views saying the same of their friends (81% versus 62%) - to those of adults. and to capture attitudes unique to an unexpected finding given all the focus on how them. important peers and friends are in young people's lives. Almost 7 in 10 (68%) say they get a hug or kiss I'm OK from their parents almost every day. And few teenagers find a statement designed to capture that The vision of sullen. alienated youth seems to fly in ever-present "generation gap" compelling. A surpris- the face of what young people have to say about ingly low 24% say "My parents don't really under- themselves. Most America's adolescents report they stand the problems I face" captures the way they feel. are doing well - not only when it comes to their physical well-being but on a personal level as well. A These positive reinforcements often continue when little more than 6 in 10 (61%) say the description "I youngsters leave the house and interact with adults. am usually happy comes very close to capturing how Nearly 8 in 10 (79%) say the adults they run across they feel. And. in what might be outside of school are friendly toward them and their a surprise to many adults. two- friends. About two-thirds (65%) say they get a com- important to reiterate thirds 166% say "faith in God is pliment or encouraging word from adults almost the public's funda- an important part of my life." and every day. And 7 in 10 (70%) have adults other than tal concerns about about equally as many (68%) say parents they can talk with about 3 serious problem. 19 people center not they attend religious services at Responding to a question about whom adolescents heir day-to-day happi- least once a month. could confide in. this Denver teen said. "My next- but on the quality door neighbors I've known them for five years and quantity of moral Nor do the vast majority of ado- we're really close. I tell them everything. And if I ance they receive lescents worry about physical can't talk to my parents about it. then I tell them." and financial deprivation. Three in four young people (75%) do not worry at all about Why Are Kids Saying Such Nice Things? one parent losing a job. and 72% do not worry at all that their family will not have money to take care of At first brush. the way youngsters describe their own the basics. About 3 in 4 adolescents (74%) say they relationships with adults seems entirely incompatible never have to "worry about having enough food or a with what adults have been saying about them place to sleep The large majority of youngsters seem throughout this study. What accounts for these vastly to live secure and comfortable lives. although the differing viewpoints? This study was not intended to finding that even a quarter of the nation's young peo- be the definitive accounting of the day-to-day lives, ple are sometimes anxious about having enough to eat attitudes. and experiences young people go through. or a place to live will undoubtedly disturb many But the data do suggest some reasons for the contrast- Americans. ing views of adults and youngsters. My Parents Are OK Although it is obvious that most youngsters do not have routinely antagonistic relationships with adults When youngsters talk about their own parents. they - nor are they particularly dissatisfied with the major describe them as supportive and giving. If caring. lov- features of their lives - it is important to reiterate 32 © 1997 Public Agenda that the public's fundamental concerns about voung guidance and attention from adults. while 42% say people center not on their dav-to-dav happiness. but things are about right. "It is true." said another on the quality and quantity of moral guidance they Westchester teen. "when you have a lot of free time receive. In fact. it is not unlikely that some adults on your hands. you are going to sometimes get into interviewed for this project might think many young- bad things or else you will be totally bored." sters would be better off if they occasionally had a few antagonistic encounters with adults telling them Still another question is whether most youngsters to behave themselves. have the life experience and perspective to truly judge whether they are personally getting the supervision Attention Deficit and adult guidance they need. It may be too much to expect teenagers to conduct a self-conscious account- But do youngsters themselves sense that they are not ing of their personal freedom. their own shortcomings getting the guidance they need? The results of Public and those of the people who they are closest to and Agenda's 1997 study. Getting By: What American most dependent upon. Among the youth surveyed Teenagers Really Think About Their Schools. suggest here, it seems far easier to see gaps and shortcomings that many youngsters do want more structure and in other youngsters and in other people's parents. than supervision in their lives. It showed students were to judge their own parents and their own behavior as drawn to caring but firm teachers. to more rigorous lacking. academic standards. and to policies that made expec- tations of their behavior clear. High school students My Friends' Parents thought highly of teachers who managed to both care about them and run a focused classroom where little While they have good things to say about their own nonsense was tolerated. They also strongly supported parents. adolescents are far more equivocal about measures to remove disruptive students from other parents around them. While over half (57%) say classrooms. most parents do an excellent or good job of raising their kids, a substantial number - 43% - think they There are also indications in this study that many ado- are doing only a fair or poor job. lescents may not be getting the sort of attention and "A friend of mine - her parents Seven in ten youngsters supervision they need. One-third (33%) say there is aren't together." said a Denver (69%) do not belong to no adult at home when they return from school. And teen. "and when her father comes any club or organization 53% reported that there was no parent or guardian in along her parents are always outside of school. the room as they were answering the questions to this arguing. and her little sister and survey - a survey that lasted about 23 minutes on brother are always hearing their average. and asked about relatively private attitudes arguments. And the mother's into drugs. It's not a and experiences. Although phone interviewers were happy life." Parents who are failing to fulfill their encouraged to provide details to kids and their responsibilities may not be the rule. according to guardians about how to contact Public Agenda for fur- youngsters. but they are also hardly the exception. ther information about the organization and the study's purpose. only one parent called Public Agenda Some of the specific criticisms young people have of offices to inquire about the purpose and content of the today's parents echo the criticisms of the general pub- survey in which her child had taken part. lic. although often by lesser margins. About 4 in 10 (41%) adolescents think parents who have children At Malls, People's Houses, Wherever before they're ready to take responsibility are very common. Another 43% believe parents who spoil The public's concern that young people do not have their kids are very common: one-third (33%) that par- enough meaningful things to do in structured environ- ents fail to discipline their kids. The need for setting ments may be well placed. according to what the limits was apparent to this California teen: "We have youngsters say. Seven in 10 youngsters (69%) do not this one friend who has this mom who is so devoted belong to any club or organization outside of school. to him, he just fools around with her. He calls her by When meeting friends. 7 in 10 say they usually hang her first name: 'I need this. come give it to me. And out without anything specific to do; only 28% get she does it." And parents do not get stellar marks for together to do something specific. "I hang out with raising their kids with the right values: only about 4 in my friends." said a Westchester teen, "at malls, peo- 10 (39%) say parents who are good role models and ple's houses. wherever." teach their kids right from wrong are very common. "My friend's parents just don't care. they are never While adolescents have a reputation for wanting more home." said a California teen." There is food in the freedom and less supervision. in this study, many house, but they are never there to talk or confide in. youngsters seem to think that too many of them do so he turns to friends. It's not a question of a poverty not receive enough guidance and attention: Nearly stricken home - he just has no one to confide in." half (49%) believe most people their age need more KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About the Next Generation 33 Something's Wrong fort: the numbers indicate many adolescents live in ironments where threats and dangers are common- For the most part. these results do not portray the lev- place. els of blame and finger-pointing found among the gen- eral public and of parents themselves. and that may be A Fight Every Day good news. But the very fact that substantial numbers of young people have noticed something wrong with At school. this Denver youth had a far more practical how many parents are doing their job is telling. concern than fitting in: "I've just got to watch my back and make sure they don't try to jump somebody One might say it's only natural for young people to or me. They take shoes. clothes... In Long Beach. jump at the chance to turn the tables on adults and this teen reported that trouble was an everyday occur- criticize them for a change. But youngsters also give rence: "At my school. the people are getting worse. parents their due: half (50%) say parents who sacri- There is a fight every day. It used to be a good neigh- fice and work hard so their kids have a better life are borhood. now there is tagging (graffiti) every where. very common. Many youngsters. such as this one At a party. there always has to be a fight." from California. also acknowledge "it is tougher to be a parent today than it was 20 years ago." And the Risky Business things youngsters criticize in parents - spoiling chil- dren. not taking responsibility for them. failing to But some youngsters do more than merely observe teach them right from wrong - are hardly self- the dangers around them. Forty percent say "my par- serving. And. once again. large ents would be very upset if they knew some of the numbers hold these views regard- things my friends have done." What's more. the num- fifth (22%) of less of their economic circum- ber of adolescents who admit they themselves are lescents come stances: using free/reduced lunch crossing some lines and taking some risks is far from OSS gangs every day eligibility to distinguish disad- insignificant. One in four youngsters (26%) admit to vantaged youngsters from those smoking cigarettes in the past six months: 1 in 4 who are better off. middle-class (26%) to drinking alcohol: 13% to using illegal drugs: kids are as critical as those who are disadvantaged. If and 10% to getting into trouble with the police. this many young people take parents to task for fail- ing to provide guidance and values to their genera- This behavior does not seem limited to lower-income tion. it is little wonder that adults are far more upset. youth. Both youngsters who are disadvantaged and those who are better off are as likely to see people Dangers Lurking their age using drugs or alcohol every day or almost every day (45% and 40%. respectively): to report they Once they leave the immediate context and safety of themselves had used illegal drugs in the past 6 months their home. these young people talk - in focus (14% and 11%. respectively): and to have had alcohol groups and the survey - about a very different reality to drink (25% for both groups). The disadvantaged. they see close up. one they are exposed to everyday. however. are more likely to come across gangs by a They talk about how friends. other people their age, 31% to 18% margin. and sometimes they themselves get into trouble - sometimes serious trouble. And where in the past kids Be Careful How You Look may have worried about fitting in. budding romance. or the neighborhood bully. today youngsters talk Adults. as noted earlier. fault today's young people about drugs. fighting. and gangs. as a daily fact of life for a preoccupation with things material. For their they had to deal with. "Most kids I know are strug- part. there seems to be no more conspicuous manifes- gling." said a Denver teen. "Drug addiction. gang vio- tation of this preoccupation than the clothes they lence To hear them describe it. their world is full of wear. More than 6 in 10 (63%) adolescents believe dangers. requiring them to be ever-watchful and on that most or all people their age pay too much atten- guard. tion to their appearance what they wear and what they look like. The pressure to keep up appearances is These are more than focus group impressions. About there. although many youngsters deny that they are 4 in 10 (41%) say that they see people their age using personally affected by it. In Westchester. one 10th- drugs or alcohol every day or almost every day. About grader wearing a Calvin Klein tee-shirt. designer a third (34%) report being to a party in the past 6 jeans and the requisite three or four earrings insisted months where other kids were drunk. Three in 10 that she would never allow another teen to influence (30% say their parents "press me to stay home what she buys because "that girl is not the one paying because they think it's not safe out there." One-fifth for my clothes I am." Peer pressure is often more (22%) come across gangs every day or almost every subtle than crude. Based on this study it seems more day. These are not majorities. but that is small com- often a function of milieu rather than direct taunting. 34 © 1997 Public Agenda And today. young people find themselves in a milieu family is that way that's how I was raised. to help fostered by targeted marketing. advertising. and people out" said a California teen. About 6 in 10 celebrity endorsement. one that is commonly tolerated (59%) youngsters would be very comfortable watch- by the adults and authority figures in their lives. ing a younger child for a neighbor as a favor. without pay: and 60% have recently done it. Two-thirds 167%) If adolescents report their peers are paying very care- would be very comfortable running errands for a ful attention to how they dress. they also report they neighbor; and half (51%) have recently done so. are not paying careful attention to how they treat each other. Only one-fifth (21%) say most people their age Adolescents also are willing to contribute to commu- are very respectful toward each other. In Long Beach. nity-wide efforts to help the needy. For example. 55% California a teenager compared her experience grow- would feel very comfortable volunteering at a hospital ing up in England to that in the U.S.: "In England. or church: about half (51%) would be very comfort- kids. you look at them and they smile at you. Here able feeding poor or homeless in a soup kitchen. It is you look at them and they are like. 'What are you interesting to note the drop off. however. between looking at?" And one girl in Denver reported this willingness to help and actually helping. one similar behavior crossed the line into abuse: "Some of the to that found among adults. Only girls are really ruthless. If they just see you and they 37% of youngsters. for example. don't like the way you look or how you are walking, report they have recently volun- Rather than simply play- they 11 start something with you. For a while I had teered at a hospital or church. It ing the role of the passive these girls calling my house. following me home from seems that the same ground rules beneficiaries, many school." Nor do young people rate adolescents' behav- regarding helping that prevail youngsters themselves are ior toward adults very highly - only 26% say people among adults often prevail among interested in helping. their age are very respectful of adults. "I have a friend youngsters as well. The reciproci- who has no respect for her dad at all." said a Califor- ty norm seems. for example. to be nia teen. "She calls him very bad names to his face. widely espoused by young Americans: 69% say and she just has no respect. someone who gets help should express their gratitude: and 56% say someone who gets help should return In the end. youngsters are hardly more optimistic than the favor when they can. adults about having faith in their generation's capacity to change the world for the better. About 6 in 10(57%) To Give Is To Receive say people their age will not make much difference to the country or even make it worse: one-third (32%) Some of the things young people say may be hearten- think they will make it better. Historically. young peo- ing for those who suspect that kids are not as bad as ple have often been dismissive of adults and the world many think they are. Other findings confirm that they had fashioned. beaming with a self-confident "step things could be much better. But one compelling aside and let us do the job" attitude. They now seem to theme emerging here is that many young people are display little confidence that they themselves will be up ready. willing. and able to help others and help each to the task. other. Many children's advocates look at society and ask what can be done to help kids. But rather than If I Am Only For Myself simply playing the role of the passive beneficiaries. many youngsters themselves are interested in helping. There does seem to be a large pool of potential energy not only their friends and neighbors. but others in the among oungsters waiting to be tapped. Young people community. The potential resonance of this theme is today are not only waiting for help and guidance; they threefold: it fits nicely with the notion of reciprocity seem very willing to help and guide each other. and to about helping that the public already has: it contradicts help adults who need it. the widely-held image of spoiled kids who lack char- acter: and. perhaps most importantly. it meshes per- As with the adults in this study. fully 7 in 10 (70%) fectly with the public's focus on teaching children youngsters subscribe to the notion that people should character and responsibility. help others because it's the right thing to do. "My KIDS THESE DAYS. What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 35 AFTERWORD People have very negative feelings about today's The Need For Responsible Adults youngsters. and they fault parents for the problems they see. At the same time. they readily acknowledge People of every persuasion are crying out for adults how tough it is to be a parent in today world - - in any guise - to help youngsters become peace- even as they feel compassion for what the young are able. disciplined. and respectable human beings. They up against. want schools to play a very significant role. They want children to be taught such values as honesty. tol- To some. the public's voice in Kids These Davs may erance. and respect for others. and they want students sound strident at times. or even contradictory. But to be held accountable for their behavior. Americans do recognize the complexity of the prob- lem. People are critical of parents and kids. but they Further. they call for parents to begin taking parenting are also sensitive to the prob- seriously. to understand the sacrifices that must be lems they face. But most here are troubling made. to understand that all young people need disci- important of all. they are nei- bstacles to volunteerism pline and limits to thrive. and thereby start life on the ther confused nor ambivalent at do not lend them- right foot. And. they endorse the need for individuals. elves to a quick fix or on how best to help the schools. and agencies other than the government to youngsters. People are riveted lever slogan. step in and fill the gaps when parents have serious by one goal - the necessity trouble raising their children properly. of teaching all children the values of integrity. ethical behavior. concern for others. As we have observed. however. there are troubling respect. civility. compassion. and responsibility. They obstacles to volunteerism that do not lend themselves believe that these values are the arsenal children need to a quick fix or clever slogan. Free time is increas- to become responsible adults and to benefit society. ingly hard to come by these days. but discomfort over intruding into someone else's life is the real action- A Sweeping Diagnosis stopper. Reserve and hesitancy have overwhelmed old-fashioned "neighborliness." People simply seem Many of those who spend their professional lives to have lost confidence that "people are people" helping children worry that America pays lip service everywhere. to the young but doesn't really care about them. We found quite the opposite to be true. People are deeply No Magic Bullets concerned. They are frightened for these children. who seem to be growing up with such serious deficits America has not reached this impasse overnight. nor in character and morals. And sadly. in some cases. will the situation be remedied in a fortnight. There is they are frightened of these children as well. As the no magic potion that will quickly unleash the public's study points out. however. such attitudes are not desire to care for all of the nation's youngsters. But reserved solely for teenagers: nor are they directed the public has defined the path we must follow to exclusively at the residents of our most disadvantaged regain our footing. inner cities. The diagnosis is much more sweeping, encompassing all of society and including the For many of those who have labored long and hard to very young. help children and teenagers. this message may be tough to take. But if we are truly committed to engaging all Traditional child advocacy has historically focused on Americans in the business of improving the lot of all ending poverty and improving the health of young youngsters. the centerpiece of such an endeavor must people through expanded nutrition and medical care. surely be the creation of a morally intact generation. While many people find these goals persuasive. and few Americans adamantly oppose them. they are - given the focus of the public's concerns - somewhat beside the point. Deborah Wadsworth Executive Director. Public Agenda 36 © 1997 Public Agenda TABLE I: VIEWS ON TEENAGERS Now I'm going to describe different types of teenagers and ask if you think they are common or not. How about teenagers who [INSERT ITEM]? Are they very common. somewhat common. not too common. or not common at all?"! Parents African General American Hispanic White % saying "very common" Parents of public parents teens parents parents Face social problems like drugs. 62% 66% 62% 71% 72% 64% gangs. or crime Get into trouble because they have 50 51 45 63 61 49 too much free time Have poor work habits and lack 41 40 43 49 46 38 self-discipline Lack good role models 36 36 35 43 34 36 Are wild and disorderly in public 30 33 30 49 43 31 Are lively and fun to be around 29 25 24 35 25 25 Are friendly and helpful toward 12 10 12 16 14 10 their neighbors Treat people with respect 12 9 9 17 11 8 1 Teenagers were defined for respondents as 13 to 17 years old Sample Sizes: General public = 2.000: Parents = 763: Parents of Teens = 162: Parents of Children = 293: African American Parents = 367: Hispanic Parents = 348 White Parents = 596: Youth = 600. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 37 TABLE 2: VIEWS ON CHILDREN Now I'm going to déscribe different types of children and ask if you think they are common or not. How about children who are [INSERT ITEM]? Are they very common. somewhat common. not too common. or not common at all?"! Parents African General American Hispanic White % saying "very common" Parents of public children parents parents parents Face social problems like drugs. 54% 56% 52% 63% 58% 53% gangs. or crime Are spoiled and do not appreciate 48 49 44 54 51 48 what they have Don't get enough attention and 46 45 42 45 47 45 support from adults Are bright and eager to learn 32 32 37 40 37 32 Are out of control in public areas 31 30 28 39 34 29 such as restaurants and movies Are lazy and do not apply 30 30 30 38 28 28 themselves Are physically or sexually abused 21 23 21 31 29 21 Are friendly and helpful toward 17 17 22 25 19 16 their neighbors Treat people with respect 12 11 14 20 14 9 1 Children were defined for respondents as older than 5 but not yet teenagers. 38 © 1997 Public Agenda TABLE 3: VIEWS ON PARENTS Non I'm going to describe different types of parents and ask if you think they are common or not. How about parents who [INSERT ITEM]? Are they very common. somewhat common. not too common. or not common at all?" General African Hispanic White % saying "very common" public Parents American Youth parents parents parents (12-17 years old) Mothers who have to give up time with their kids to work so their families can 75% 78% 83% 76% 79% NA make ends meet People who have children before they are ready to take 63 65 72 69 63 41 responsibility for them Parents who break up too easily instead of trying to stay together for 55 57 56 57 58 31 the sake of their kids Parents who sacrifice and work hard so 51 54 65 58 52 50 that their kids can have a better life Parents who do not know how to 51 52 54 56 51 32 communicate with their kids Parents who think buying things for their kids means the same thing as car- 50 51 53 52 51 29 ing for them Parents who fail to discipline 50 50 58 49 50 33 their children Parents who spoil their kids 49 50 56 46 50 43 Parents who resent advice about their kids even when It comes from people 43 42 48 44 40 NA who mean well Fathers who act like their careers are 35 35 47 more important than their kids 39 33 NA Parents who care more about their jobs NA NA NA than their kids NA NA 11 Parents who abuse welfare and teach 32 31 41 43 their kids to depend on handouts 29 NA Mothers who give up time with their kids and go to work to gain personal 27 29 32 33 26 NA satisfaction People who are failures as parents and should never have had kids to begin 22 21 31 29 17 12 with Fathers who are affectionate and loving toward their kids¹ 22 20 24 20 20 35 Parents who are good role models and 22 teach their kids right from wrong 19 32 25 18 39 1. Wording for Youth: "Fathers who are warm and loving toward their kids" KIDS THESE DAYS What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 39 TABLE 4: PROBLEMS FACING TODAY'S KIDS "I'm going to describe different problems and ask if you think each is a serious problem facing today's kids. How about [INSERT ITEM]? Is that problem very serious. somewhat serious. not too serious. or not serious at all for today's kids?" [If "very" or "somew hat serious":] "Do you think this problem mostly affects kids from lower income families. or is it widespread?" saying problem is "very serious" General African Parents Hispanic White American a saying problem is "widespread"¹ public parents parents parents Kids abusing drugs or alcohol 71% 69% 79% 83% 67% Kids abusing drugs or alcohol is widespread 95 95 93 93 95 Kids seeing 100 much violence or sex on television 69 71 and in the movies 76 75 71 Kids seeing too much violence/sex in the 96 97 95 95 98 media is widespread Kids threatened by crime or gangs 62 64 77 77 60 Kids threatened by crime/gangs IS widespread 67 70 75 73 71 Kids failing to learn such values as honesty. 61 63 67 66 62 respect and responsibility Kids failing to learn values is widespread 91 91 88 90 92 Walfare programs that encourage single-parent 58 57 66 62 55 families and teen pregnancy Welfare programs encouraging single-parent 46 47 55 50 46 familie>/teen pregnancies is widespread Punise schools that rail to give kids a good 49 52 60 53 49 education Public schools tailing to give kids a good 76 77 61 71 80 education IS widespread Fewer families teaching their kids religious faith 49 50 58 55 48 and values Fewer families teaching religion/values is 95 95 91 92 95 widespread Kids suffering because of economic pressure on 44 44 60 53 42 heir parents Kids suffering from economic pressure on 64 67 64 61 69 parents is widespread Kids lacking the support of strong communities 40 44 58 45 41 where neighbors care about them Kids lacking support from communities is 80 82 74 72 widespread 84 Families facing a shortage of government 27 30 47 36 27 programs that support kids Shortage of government programs that support 50 51 43 kids is widespread 54 51 Percentages saying problems are widespread are based on respondents who indentified the problems as either very or hat serious 10 © 1997 Public Agenda TABLE 5: WAYS TO HELP YOUNG PEOPLE Now I'll read different ways to help kids and ask how effective you think each would be. Do you think that [INSERT ITEM] would be a very effective way to help kids. somewhat effective. not too effective. or not effective at all? General African Hispanic White % saying "very effective" public Parents American Youth parents parents parents (12.17 years old) Improving the quality of the public 67% 71% 76% 67% schools- 70% 51% More programs and activities for kids to do after school in places 60 60 75 67 57 46 like community centers Employers giving parents more flexible work schedules so they can spend more 55 57 66 59 58 NA time with their kids Nighttime curtens after which kids could not be on the streets without 53 55 63 66 54 30 their parents More involvement by volunteer organi- zations dedicated to kids. like the Boy 53 51 61 55 50 NA Scouts and the YMCA Pressuring the entertainment industry to produce movies and music with less 49 50 54 58 49 26 violence and sex Tougher punishment for kids who 48 5.1 50 48 52 49 commit crime Neighbors spending more time with 47 49 kids and watching out for them 59 46 48 33 Increasing the wages and job security 44 46 60 51 44 NA of parents Holding parents legally responsible 37 35 32 37 37 15 when their kids get into trouble More government funding for child 34 37 56 45 36 NA care and health care programs Increasing government funding for such welfare programs as AFDC and 10 8 16 13 8 NA food stamps I Wording for youth: "Now I'll read different ways to help kids and ask how effective you think each would be." 2. Wording for youth: "Making the public schools better" KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 41 TABLE 6: GENERAL VIEWS OF HELPING Now I'll read you statements about helping people. Please tell me how close each come to your own view. [INSERT STATEMENT.] Is that very close. somewhat close. not too close or not close at all to your view General African Hispanic White Youth % saying "very close" Parents American public parents parents parents (12-17 years old) People should help others because it is 75% 75% 76% 65% 76% 70 the right thing to do Someone who gets help should show 60 60 71 57 60 69 that he appreciates It You have to be careful to avoid embar- russing people when you 15y to help 56 54 64 53 52 42 them People usually help out of the good- 55 53 57 61 53 40 ness of their hearts When someone gets help he should reciprocate and return the favor when 51 50 54 41 52 56 he can People who help others are usually 44 41 52 44 41 NA appreciated You have to be careful because some people will try to take advantage of 37 37 60 43 34 37 you when you try to help Many people help only when they 24 21 31 22 19 NA think they can get something in return People who spend J for of time helping others often corget to take care of their 17 16 23 23 15 NA wan families Many people help only when they feel 16 13 20 15 12 NA embarrassed or pressured to do so People who help often interfere in 14 14 17 16 13 NA other people's personal affairs Wording for youth Someone who gets help should return the favor when he can" 42 1997 Public Agenda TABLE 7: HELPING - COMFORT LEVEL AND BEHAVIOR "Now I'll describe different ways of trying to help kids and ask which you would feel comfortable doing and which you would feel uncomfortable doing. How about [INSERT ITEM]? Would you feel very com- fortable doing that. somewhat comfortable. somewhat uncomfortable. or very uncomfortable?"* "Have you done anything like that in the past six months?" % saying they would % saying "yes" African they have done General American Hispanic White be "very comfortable" Parents doing item something like Item public parents parents parents in past six months Complimenting a neighbor's child who 85% 70% 89% 78% 89% 76% 81% 71% 89% 79% has done a good deed or done well in school Taking some extra time off from work NA NA 80 72 81 69 82 69 79 72 just to do something special with your kids¹ Watching a child for a neighbor who has 71 52 79 70 74 65 73 65 79 69 to run an errand Taking a child to a ball game or a show- 62 43 71 60 75 54 69 60 71 60 Helping out a neighbor who is a new mother with a 56 29 66 37 70 43 64 39 66 35 baby Having 3 serious discussion with a teenager who is 52 46 56 52 69 61 52 45 54 51 not your own about a problem they are having Volunteering to be a mentor or to help in some way at 48 24 55 33 61 34 56 29 54 32 a local school Joining a volunteer organization that helps kids' 47 23 52 28 63 27 53 17 49 28 Taking some action if you suspect a neighbor IS abusing their child 47 10 48 11 59 12 51 11 49 11 Telling kids who are misbehaving in a public area to 39 47 44 58 50 60 40 51 44 58 behave themselves Knocking on a neighbor's door if you think the family 38 26 40 29 46 32 39 23 40 29 needs help Telling a neighbor that their child had been getting 33 28 39 39 59 43 37 37 37 38 into mischief 1. Asked of parents or guardians of children under 18 who live with them 2. Wording for parents/guardians: "Taking a child who is not your own to a ball game or a show" 3 Follow-up question: "Are you now a member of this type of organization?" Chart shows percent saying "yes" . Respondents were assured that no one would contact them about doing any of these activities. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 43 TABLE 8: WAYS TO VOLUNTEER Suppose you wanted to do something new to help kids and you were considering different options What if [INSERT ITEM]? Would that make you more likely to help. less likely. or would it not make much difference? IIF LIKELY: Is that much more likely or somewhat more likely?]* African General Hispanic White % saying "much more likely" Parents American public parents parents parents You could bring kids along to an activity you already to with your own children NA% 50% 56% 57% 48% You could help occasionally. whenever you found 47 49 51 52 49 extra time. instead of making a regular commitment You could take kids to something you enjoyed. like a 45 49 58 55 48 hobby or a sports event You could develop a special bond with one child 37 41 46 43 39 Your close friends were already involved 34 35 35 43 36 You could meet new triends while helping kids 32 34 44 41 32 The kids you were helping came from an 14 13 22 20 10 inner-city neighborhood You could donate your time to a kids' organization 12 11 18 21 without dealing with the kids themselves 9 I t-ked of parents or guardians of children under 18 who live with them. Respondents were assured that no one would contact them about doing any of these activities 44 © 1997 Public Agenda TABLE 9: THE VIEWS OF YOUNG PEOPLE Now I'll ask you how close each of the following statements comes to how you feel. [INSERT STATE- MENT.] Is that very close. somewhat close. not too close or not close at all to your view?" Youth % saying "very close" (12-17 years old) I can always trust my parents to be there for me when I need them 81% If I ever need to talk to an adult. there IS someone other than my parents I can go to 70 Faith in God IS an important part of my life 66 I can always trust my friends to be there for me when I need them 62 I am usually happy 61 I am good at helping other kids with their problems 48 Many of the adults in my neighborhood know me by name 46 My parents would be very upset if they knew some of the things my friends have done 40 My parents sometimes press me to stay home in the evening because they think it's not safe out there 30 When my friends and I are in stores or at the mall. He often get suspicious looks. as if we're up to no good 25 My parents don't really understand the problems I face 24 I avoid certain areas in my neighborhood just to be sate 24 I enjoy spending time with people who are in their 60s or older 21 KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 45 TABLE 10: YOUNG PEOPLE'S EXPERIENCES Now I'm going to describe some things and ask how often you experience them. How often do you [INSERT STATEMENT]? Every day. almost every day. sometimes. almost never. or never? Youth % saying "every day" or "almost every day" (12-17 years old) Get a hug or kiss from your parents 68% Get J compliment or encouraging words from adults 65 Come across teachers who really care about their students 60 Get help or advice from your parents with homework or school projects 51 See people your age using drugs or alcohol 41 Feel bored 39 Come across adults who have a hard time dealing with people your age 34 Come across people who try to put you down 30 Get excited by something you study in school 26 Wish you had more good friends 26 Cut corners when it comes to schoolwork 24 Feel tense or nervous about your day 24 Come across gangs 22 Get into in argument with your parents 22 Come across people who try to intimidate or bully you 18 Worry about how well your parents are getting along 18 Worry about having enough food or a place to sleep 5 Get into a physical fight with other people your age 4 46 © 1997 Public Agenda TABLE II: COMFORT LEVEL AND BEHAVIOR OF YOUNG PEOPLE Now I'll describe different ways of helping and ask which you feel comfortable doing and which you would feel uncomfortable doing How about [INSERT ITEM]? Would you feel very comfortable. somew hat comfortable. somewhat uncomfortable, or very uncomfortable doing that?"* "Have you done anything like that in the past six months?" % saying "very comfortable" % saying "yes," they have done something Youth like item in the past six months (12-17 years old) Running an errand for a neighbor who needed help 67% 51% Watching a younger child for a neighbor as a favor. without getting paid 59 60 Doing volunteer work once a week at a place like a hospital or church 55 37 Helping to feed poor or homeless people at a place like a soup kitchen 51 24 Volunteering to tutor kids at school 47 37 Spending time once a week with very old people who need company 44 41 . Respondents were assured that no one would contact them about doing any of these activities. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 47 ENDNOTES 1. Princeton Survey Research Associates (sponsored with the statement "Most serious problems in our by Newsweek and NBC News). National telephone society stem mainly from economic and financial survey of 656 adults. conducted April. 1997. "Which pressure on the family." Eleven percent volunteered of the following IS a bigger threat to the United that they agreed with both statements and 1% were States foreign nations working against us. or young not sure which statement was closer to their view. Americans without education. job prospects or con- nections to mainstream American life?" Foreign 5. John Locke. An Essav Concerning Human nations. 18%: Young Americans. 74%: Don't know. Understanding. (ed. Peter H. Nidditch). Oxford: 8% Clarendon Press. 1975. 2. For example. Princeton Survey Research Associates 6. See: First Things First: What Americans Expect has conducted many surveys that include questions on from the Public Schools. Public Agenda. 1994: and attitudes toward teenagers. including the Family Getting By. p.42. Circle Family Index Project. for Family Circle maga- zine in June. 1993 and Speaking of Kids-A National 7. For example. see Great Expectations: How Survey of Children and Parents (June 1991). conduct- American Voters View Children's Issues (published by ed for the National Commission on Children. the Coalition for America's Children. 1997) and the National Opinion Research Center's General Social 3. After hitting a low of 27% in 1992. the percentage Survey 1990 for many survey questions on support of high school seniors who have used any illicit drug for proposals and programs that benefit children. such in the past 12 months has increased each year. reach- as nutrition programs. pre-school programs. health ing 40% in 1996. Source: National Institute on Drug care. and child care. Abuse. Monitoring the Future Study. 1996. 8. The Values We Live By: What Americans Want from The suicide rate for people ages 15 to 19 increased Welfare Reform. Public Agenda. 1996. from 5.9 per 100.000 in 1970 to 10.8 per 100,000 in 1990. More recent data shows that for people ages 15 9. See: First Things First and Assignment to 24 the suicide rate increased from an estimated Incomplete: The Unfinished Business of Education rate of 12.9 per 100.000 in 1992 to 14.9 per 100,000 Reform, Public Agenda. 1995. p. 43. in 1994. Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Trends in the Well-Being of 10. See Public Agenda's three statewide studies on America's Children and Youth: 1996. p. 88 attitudes toward crime and sentencing : Punishing Criminals: The Public's View, An Alabama Survey In 1994. 21.29 of children under 18 lived in poverty. (1989): Punishing Criminals: The People of Delaware Source: U.S. Department of Education. National Consider the Options (1991): and Punishing Center for Education Statistics. Youth Indicators, Criminals: Pennsylvanians Consider the Options 1996. p. 54. (1993). In 1994. 30% of children lived with either one parent 11. The Values We Live By. p. 18. (27%) or no parent (3%). Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Trends in the Well-Being 12. For example. of those earning $15.000 or less per of America's Children and Youth: 1996. p. 21. year. 60% of black parents. 53% of Hispanic parents. and 52% of white parents think that more government Forty-eight percent of public school students say "too funding for children and health care programs would much drugs and violence in school" is a serious prob- be a very effective way to help kids. For those earning lem. and 68% identify cheating on tests and assign- $25,001 to $40.000 per year. 61% of black parents. ments as a serious problem. Source: Getting By: What 48% of Hispanic parents and 37% of white parents American Teenagers Really Think About Their say the same. Schools. Public Agenda. 1997, p. 42. 13. For example. of those earning $15,000 or less per 4. Hart and Teeter Research Companies (sponsored by year. 62% of black parents. 59% of Hispanic parents. NBC News and the Wall Street Journal). National and 52% of white parents think increasing the wages telephone survey of 2.003 adults. conducted and job security of parents would be a very effective December. 1996. Fifty-one percent agreed with the way to help kids. For those earning $25,001 to $40,000 statement "Most serious problems in our society stem per year. 63% of black parents, 51% of Hispanic par- mainly from a decline in moral values, 37% agreed ents and 43% of white parents say the same. 48 © 1997 Public Agenda METHODOLOGY Kids These Days: What Americans Really Think Interviewers were instructed to provide details about About The Next Generation is based on two telephone the purpose and content of the study. and to encour- surveys within the continental United States. The first age parents to contact Public Agenda if they wished IS a survey of 2.000 adults aged 18 years or older. to know more about the survey their child had partici- plus oversamples of 300 African American and 300 pated in. Hispanic parents. The second is a survey of 600 young people aged 12 to 17 years old. In addition. SIX The Questionnaires focus groups were conducted in sites across the coun- try. as well as dozens of in-depth. follow-up telephone The questionnaires were designed by Public Agenda. interviews with adults who had completed the survey. and all interpretation of data reflected in this report was done by Public Agenda. As in all surveys. ques- The Survey Of Adults tion order effects and other non-sampling sources of error can sometimes affect results. Steps were taken Two-thousand telephone interviews with adult mem- to minimize these. including extensively pre-testing bers of the general public were conducted between the survey instruments and randomizing the order in December 3 and December 18. 1996. The interviews which some questions were asked. averaged approximately 39 minutes in length. The interviews were conducted using a random sample of Western Watts supplied the sample. Interviews were households and a standard. random-digit-dialing tech- conducted by Robinson and Muenster Associates. Inc. nique whereby every household in the region covered of Sioux Falls. South Dakota. had an equal chance of being contacted. including those with unlisted numbers. The margin of error for The Focus Groups the 2.000 members of the general public IS plus or minus two percentage points: the margin of error is Focus groups allow for an in-depth. qualitative explo- higher when comparing percentages across subgroups. ration of the dynamics underlying the public's atti- tudes toward complex issues. Insights from these In addition to the national random sample interviews. groups were important to the survey design. and oversample interviews were conducted with 300 quotes were drawn from them to give voice to atti- African American and 300 Hispanic parents of chil- tudes captured statistically through the survey inter- dren under the age of 18 living at home. When the views. study reports results about African American and Hispanic parents. it pools the oversampled parents A total of SIX focus groups were conducted. Five with those appearing "naturally" in the national sam- focus groups took place in May 1996 in three cities: ple. netting 367 African American parents and 348 Long Beach. California: Denver. Colorado: and Hispanic parents. Secaucus. New Jersey. In Long Beach two focus groups were conducted. one with African American The Survey Of Young People parents. and one with teenagers aged 15 to 18 years old. In Denver two focus groups were conducted. one Six-hundred telephone interviews with young people with parents and one with young people aged 12 to 14 aged 12 to 17 years old were conducted between years old. In Secaucus. one focus group was conduct- December 3 and December 18. 1996. The interviews ed with adults who were not parents of school-aged averaged approximately 23 minutes in length. Similar children living at home. One focus group of high to the adult sample. the interviews were conducted school students was conducted in September 1995 in using a random sample of households and a standard. Westchester. New York. In all cases. local profession- random-digit-dialing technique whereby every house- al market research organizations recruited participants hold in the region covered had an equal chance of to Public Agenda's specifications. All focus groups being contacted. including those with unlisted num- were moderated by Public Agenda senior staff. bers. The margin of error for the 600 young people is plus or minus four percentage points. KIDS THESE DAYS: What Americans Really Think About The Next Generation 49 RELATED PUBLIC AGENDA PUBLICATIONS "Getting By: What American Teenugers Really Thing About Their Schools (1997). Public high school students are the focus of this national telephone survey that examines how teens view their schools. teachers. and the learning process. Includes insights into what students say would motivate them to work harder in school and how they define "good" and "bad" teaching. Special sections on African American and Hispanic students. private high school students. and students from Jefferson County. Kentucky and the San Francisco Bay Area are included. Copies are available from Public Agenda for $10.00. The Troubled American Family: Which Wav Out Of The Storm? (1996). Prepared for the National Issues Forums (NIF). this issues book examines the pressured American family. Three diagnoses of what has gone wrong with the family as well as three courses of public action are explored. NIF consists of locally initiated town meetings and study circles that bring citizens together in over 5.000 communities across the nation for nonpartisan discus- sions. The publication can be ordered from McGraw-Hill by calling 1-800-338-3987. A new National Issues Forums book with a focus on children will be available in the fall of 1997. This NIF issues book will focus on the problems today's young people are facing. Three approaches that have wide public support will be explored. The publication will be available for ordering from Kendall/Hunt by calling 1-800-228- 0810. *The Values We Live By: What Americans Want From Welfare Reform (1996). This study examines public atti- tudes toward welfare reform: what bothers Americans about welfare: why they are so frustrated with the current system: what kind of change they are seeking. A special focus on the views of African Americans and residents of New York. Florida. and Illinois is included. Copies are available from Public Agenda for $10.00. "Assignment Incomplete: The Unfinished Business Of Education Reform (1995). Prepared in collaboration with the Institute for Educational Leadership. this study examines why support for public schools is in jeopardy: why Americans are so concerned with the basics; whether people are really committed to higher standards: and whether they value education in and of itself. This study is based on a telephone survey of 1.200 Americans. including oversamples of parents with children attending public schools and public school teachers. plus a mail survey of leaders in business. education. government. and the media. and focus groups. Copies are available from Public Agenda for $10.00 First Things First: What Americans Expect From The Public Schools (1994). Based on an examination of the views of over 1.100 members of the general public. including 550 parents of children currently in public school. this report looks at public attitudes toward values issues in the schools and toward education reform efforts. 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